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If You’re Doing Any Of These 5 Things, You’re Personally Responsible For Why Your Dreams Aren’t Coming True

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Alexis Brown

I used to think that procrastination was just inbuilt into my personality. At school I’d always put homework off, at university I’d put deadlines off and in adult life I would defer ‘adulting’ tasks until next week or next month. Now I know I’m not alone in this behavior, I feel as though us millennials are some of the biggest procrastinators because, in the age of social media, it’s by far easier to scroll through Instagram than face up to life’s daily tasks.

I guess some things we can forgive for putting off such as house chores, clearing out your emails or making that tricky phone call.

But one thing we shouldn’t be putting off is our dreams.

It seems as though these days, it’s easier to put our dreams on hold and come up with excuses instead of pursuing them. We seem to convince ourselves that we will start that goal next month, or plan that dream for next year. However making those promises to ourselves doesn’t make time go any slower. Next month will soon become tomorrow and next year will creep up on us and yet our dreams will still be left unopened and unexplored.

So why is it we seem to put our dreams off? I think we all have this fear. A fear that when we reach them they won’t be as good as we imagined or hoped they would be. So instead of being hit with disappointment, we avoid ever finding out. Personally, I’d rather live knowing that I tried than living with the unknown and what- ifs.

So here are some of the things that are holding you back and why they shouldn’t be…

1. Self-Doubt Will Kill Your Dreams Before Failure Does

Self-doubt can be really inhibiting and the same goes for fear. As humans, when we are faced with times of fear our bodies are designed to either fight or flight. For many of us the option to run seems like the safe one but by doing so we then avoid facing up and fighting through the things that scare us. In addition to this, when we experience one failure in life, it makes us think we can’t do it and give up. However the only time you do fail is when you give up.

2.You Fear The Unknown

Going for your dreams and goals will include sacrifices but the things you may need to sacrifice are usually what are holding you back and preventing you from reaching them. So you need to lose the familiarity and start to get comfortable with the uncomfortable because the greatest things will grow from there.

“Normality is walking a paved road: It’s comfortable to walk, but no flowers grow on it.” — Vincent Van Gough

3.Your Motivation Is Lacking

If I said to you that I would pay you a million pounds to be up and in the gym at 5 am every day for the next 3 weeks, would you do it? Of course you would. However, money and external influences may be enough to motivate you for 6 months but I believe that the drive from inside us is by far more powerful because you’re in charge of it and don’t need to rely on anyone else for it. So how do we get motivated and where can we find it? I believe when it comes to motivation your why is key, it’s the fundamental purpose and reasoning behind what you’re doing. With most goals, you need to establish your why because this is what will get you started. Once you’ve established it, determination, consistency, and resilience are what you will need to keep you going.

4. You Don’t Know Where To Start

Who does? But you’ve got to start somewhere, so make a plan, break down your goals into smaller ones and take one baby step at a time. Big dreams are daunting because although we know what we want, we can’t see the definitive path to getting there. Remember you may not always be able to see the finish line but your inability to see it, does not mean you won’t get there.

5. You Don’t Make The Time/ You Think You Don’t Have It

Do you think any CEO of a company or any Olympic athlete had more than 24 hours in the day? No, but the difference is they utilize their time better. Everyone is given 24 hours in their day, so spending 30 minutes a day on your dream is only 2% of it. So there’s no need to worry, you’ll still have 98% left for “Netflix and chill.”

So stop putting your dreams off, embrace the unknown and start making them happen because wasted time is time we can never get back. TC mark

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