In every relationship there comes a time for Talking About How You Really Feel. But let’s be honest: the bit before that is a total cat-and-mouse game of seduction.
If you really don’t want a relationship, you need to say that at the beginning, out loud, and face-to-face. Related: you cannot have sex with somebody to test the waters. That’s how people get hurt, and that part, unlike so much other hurt, is avoidable.
When reaching out to somebody, say who you are, where you’re from, how you know about their work and why it is important to you.
If you’re around 29 years old and your life feels like it’s going up in smoke, it’s probably not your fault. It’s… Saturn’s. As in: the planet.
“This is intimacy: the trading of stories in the dark.”
“When you’re young, you wonder what all these old people are droning on about, trying to impart their wisdom. It’s not relevant to you because being young is such a specific thing.”
The way you feel right now? This is where the magic happens.
Because nothing makes you a better writer like reading does.
Listen: there’s no such thing as an original idea. That is all at once hugely depressing and massively liberating.