I think we just needed each other.
They say timing is everything. I have racked my brain for months trying to figure out why I met you at the absolute worst time in your life. You weren’t ready for me. You weren’t ready to fall in love again. Hell, you were still trying to pick up the pieces from your recent divorce. I met you at your lowest of lows.
After months of the constant push-and-pull with you, we have finally parted ways. We didn’t have a conversation about it. There is no bad blood. We simply have not spoken and that is perfectly okay. But, still, I wonder why I met you. What was the purpose of it all?
And, here is my conclusion. I think we needed each other. And, in hindsight, the timing was perfect.
Everything was going great in my life, or, so I thought. I guess I didn’t realize that there was a void that I had been hoping to fill for so long. You showed me that I could love again, that I could actually feel those feelings once more. After the first weekend we spent together, I walked around with a newly found confidence. I started taking my time, stopped being in such a rush. I started to feel everything. It was amazing.
When you started to pull away, I was so frustrated that I started running. I now love to run. I started doing yoga; I have never had such a clear mind. I have become more patient, worldlier, and more wise.
That same confidence has allowed me to meet so many strangers and make so many memories. You are the reason why I now know what I want and am not afraid to ask for it; especially when it comes to matters of the heart. You made me, a better me. And for that, I will be eternally grateful.
As for you, I made you laugh. I was there when you cried. You could be brutally honest with me and knew that I would not judge you. I gave you advice and reassurance. I helped you get your head on straight. You had a newly found confidence when I was on your arm. And now, you know you can stand on your own. You no longer need me on your arm.
I taught you that you can learn from your mistakes and you can be the man and father you want to be. I was your biggest cheerleader, your confidant, your lover and your best friend when you needed all of the above more than anything. I know you will never forget me, as I will never forget you.
So, here’s to silver linings. If you cannot change the situation, change your perspective—it will change your life.
We just needed each other.