Ever see a cute girl on the way to class? Or catch a glimpse of a beauty at the grocery story? We’ve all been there, and we’ve all shrugged back, thinking it was out of place for us to approach and talk to a stranger. Nobody wants to be embarrassed, getting rejected. But that’s just instinct, and instinct isn’t always the most logical choice. So the next time you want to approach that hottie, don’t let irrational fear get in your way.
1. Taking initiative shows confidence, and that’s sexy
It takes guts. It takes balls. Talking to a random girl you think is attractive requires confidence. But you can be sure that when you make that move, that confidence will show. You will set yourself apart from all the others that just point and gape and rubberneck. She will appreciate you taking the lead, and that’s already two steps in the right direction.
2. If you don’t ask for what you want, the answer is always no
Go for it. You don’t have anything to lose. You will not get what you want unless you ask for it. If you want to tell her she’s pretty, you have to ask yourself to get off your butt and do so. If you want to get to know her, you have to ask her for her time. If you want her number, you will have to ask her for it. Don’t get denied before you even try. If there’s going to be any rejecting, let her do it – not yourself.
3. Cut the bull
You don’t have to chase her, and lose sleep while you attempt to determine whether or not you are in the friendzone. Do yourself a favor and find out for yourself; because the longer you wait, the more of a burden you are putting on yourself. Nothing about her answer is going to change no matter what, so cut the bull and get your answer today. Nobody likes hide and seek love, so surprise her. Refresh both her and yourself by making your intentions clear.
4. It’s nothing personal
So what if she rejects you? You don’t know what her situation is. Maybe she’s in a relationship. Maybe she’s not ready for a relationship right now. Maybe she’s only into rich guys, or super hot guys (in which case she’s missing out on a lot of awesome dudes like me, lol). There could be a number of reasons, and chances are you aren’t one of them.
5. Go home with no regrets
Great job, champ. You get to go home knowing you gave it your all. If she said yes, congrats! If she didn’t, double congrats because you went for it. You built up the courage to face your fear, and didn’t put it off. You saved yourself time, emotion, and effort. By going for gold, you’ll never have to look back, wondering what could’ve happened. You’ve become a better self than yesterday. Now that you’ve done it once, you know you can do it again. All the more to look forward to when you see another qt!
6. It only takes one
If it took you 50 rejections to meet a girl that you loved and loved you back, wouldn’t it be worth it? What about 100? What about 1000? So don’t fear rejection when you see a girl you want to talk to. Embrace the opportunity to meet a potentially special someone! Every rejection you face is just one step closer to meeting the girl that you deserve.