
Thereâs a saying that goes like this:
âNice guys finish lastâ
I think it was someone like Shakespeare who said that, him being such a hopeless romantic and all..
But what about âNice girls finish lastâ?
I am a self-proclaimed nice girl and not to brag, but it has been said by all of my friends that I am a super nice girl and that I have everything to be loved. The only problem is that Iâve never been loved, ever! Donât get your tissues out just yet, this is not a sob story. I mean, it sucks, but youâll get over it!
Now, you might already be making up excuses in your head to why Iâve never been loved, surely I must have done something wrong? I mean, who ever goes 23 years without being loved?
Iâll save you the trouble, here is a list of why I might still be single:
â Point #1: First, Iâm hella shy so yeah that really doesnât help. I wonât ever go up to a guy and talk to him. Why? Because when youâre a shy over-thinker, saying âhiâ to someone is just plain silly!
â Point #2: Iâm that girl who has big dreams and who would much rather spend her time working on making them come true than on being rejected left and right. #AintNobodyGotTimeForThat
â Point #3: When Iâm not working, Iâm just too tired and Iâd much rather be alone and binge watch a tv show.
â Point #4: I have absolutely no idea what flirting is. Iâm just lame like that. This might be because of point #1 (see point #1 âIâm hella shyâ). Maybe youâve tried to flirt with me once but I am so oblivious and also hella awkward that I might have just walked out of the conversation nonchalantly without even knowing. Or maybe I realized that you were flirting with me, but felt too awkward to just stand there with you watching me. If youâre not awkward and you donât know what anxiety is then you must not know how I must feel in those situations, lucky for you!
â Point #5: I have a superpower that makes it so that my friends get all the attention and I get none. You might be familiar with the D.U.F.F, if you are not, then let me redirect you to my other article What It Really Means To Be The D.U.F.F. Of Your Squad or just watch the movie The D.U.F.F. The main character is me without exaggerating. Itâs just how it goes, people are drawn to all of my friends and somehow I become invisible. But I donât want your pity! Sometimes itâs for the best! It prevents me from feeling awkward (see point #4).
Indeed there might be a few reasons why I am still single and why nice girls indeed finish last, maybe itâs all the nice girlâs fault if sheâs never chosen by anyone!
But itâs not always all her fault!
We overlook great people because weâre too busy looking for the wrong things in all the wrong people. So while the nice girl who is most likely THE ONE is awkwardly standing in the middle of the bar not knowing how to act, you guys are all too busy looking at the drunken âeasy to getâ girl because she wonât make it so hard for you to get so much as a kiss.
We overlook the nice girl because it would demand a lot of effort to crack her shell open and get to know her. So instead we choose less complicated women.
Iâm not saying that other women are not worth getting to know or that they are easy women! Iâm just saying that if the nice girl demands a little bit more effort and patience from a guy then it is most likely that she wonât get any attention because nobody wants to spend that time and effort on the nice girl at first. And thatâs how the nice girl most often turns out to be the perpetually single girl. But once a guy has his eyes wide open and he is able to notice the perpetually single nice girl, then their relationship promises to be one of a kind.
There might be a reason why the nice girl finishes last, maybe itâs because men have to have their fun and explore their possibilities first to finally go for the best for last. Itâs kinda sad in a way because while youâre doing all that fun stuff overlooking the nice girl and literally acting like she doesnât exist, she, on the other hand, sees you. And it hurts. It hurts to see everyone mingling with each other and to be on your own thinking that somethingâs wrong with you. But thatâs how it goes, I guess.
The nice girl always finishes last.