Date Someone Who Scares You


Date someone who scares you.

Not in the, “I don’t know if he’s a good guy” or “I’m scared he’s going to hurt me” kind of way.

No, date someone who is so wonderful to you that it scares you. Because you’ve been hurt before. You’ve trusted and been hurt, even shattered. You’ve put yourself out on the line to people you fell hard for until betrayal cut you in ways you never imagined. The idea of giving it a go with someone else isn’t something you have even wanted to try again. So when this person walks into your life, causing you to feel like you’re on edge and excitedly nervous for reasons you don’t fully understand, your first instinct is to shut them out. Even if something in you says this could be incredible, you don’t want to put yourself out there again—you want comfortable, you want safe, you want a sure thing. But let me tell you, darling, there is no such thing as a sure thing when it comes to love and relationships.

If you find a good thing, something that gets you excited, even nervous, then you should take a chance on it.

So date someone who causes your heart to beat harder and your laugh to be a little too loud. Someone who makes you feel so on top of the world that they take you to new heights that you never imagined, even if they seem scary at first. Date someone who sees you as an incredible person, but also pushes you to be that very best version of you, even if that shifts you out of your comfort zone and terrifies you from time to time. Date someone who has goals and new ideas that exceed your wildest dreams, even ones that may seem risky, but they want you to be part of them too, because if you’re going to take a leap of faith, you’re going to do it together.

And though it would be easy to find someone who is safe and comfortable, it would be easy to date someone who doesn’t scare you, a part of you knows, in the back of your mind, it would eat away at you. Yes, there is always a chance they might leave, that they might hurt you.

But you know what?

What if they stay?

Because dating someone that scares you isn’t really all that terrifying, when you think about it. Not when you can grab hold of their hand in the scary moments. Not when you know they are by your side through everything.

And what if the rest of your life is one grand adventure with the person you love, who makes you feel things you’ve never dreamed you would experience with another person?

To think you’re holding yourself back from that? Now that is honestly scary. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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