To All Men, Don’t Tell Her She’s Beautiful Unless You Mean It

Shutterstock/Aleksandr Doodko
Shutterstock/Aleksandr Doodko

There are many words in every language on the planet that can bring any number of responses, but the word ‘beautiful’ just happens to be one of my favorites. Now, the problem with this particular word is that much like the word love, it has come to be misused and abused over time; simply because when said, those who are mouthing this word are actually using it as a means to get what they want from the person they are addressing.

Now here’s the crazy thing, from a male perspective. A good amount of men have devolved when it comes to how they look at the opposite sex. They don’t tell women that they’re beautiful anymore– they only marvel at certain parts of their anatomy, instead of looking at the whole. Men have become so selective in what is believed to be beautiful ‘on’ a woman; and because of this, men treat women like objects… trophies to be paraded around, hanging off of the arm to be displayed like a carnival prize. How often have you seen a man walking around with a woman on his arm with the infamous ‘look at what I got’ face?

Now, don’t be mistaken about what you’ve just read, because as you walk around out in the world, you will come across a man walking with his wife, girlfriend or even lover… and he will have a sense of pride about him. This isn’t because he wants to put her on display, but because he wants the world to know how good he feels about being given the privilege of being with this woman. He is letting the world know that he’s the lucky one, and that he is more than thankful for that.

Much like telling a woman you love her, when you tell her that she’s beautiful, you have to mean what you say. So many women have been told that they are beautiful, and have been hurt later. Because of how they’ve been treated, when someone who means what he says walks up and expresses his amazement as both her external and internal beauty, she’s already in the ‘heard it all before’ mindset, and all of a sudden he is easily dismissed without a second thought.

We can go and blame fashion, modeling, music and media for affecting our opinions regarding what is and what isn’t beautiful, but at the end of the day, I simply believe that it’s all on us; and it’s up to us to correct that problem within ourselves.

If you look at a woman, and the impulse to approach her stirs within you; or if you already happen to be somewhere with her and you feel the need to speak up, please make it a point to speak your mind. I don’t believe that there is a wrong way to express to a woman just how beautiful – how special she is. And if you feel that she doesn’t believe you, make it a point to be more assertive with that expression. And please, feel free to be as corny as you wish to be; make her smile, make her laugh, make her eyes light up and just bask in the glow. And just feel good about the fact that you’re with her at that very moment.

We’re all human, and of course we notice everything on the surface when we initially meet someone, and physical beauty is always a good thing. But I also believe that you need to get to know a person; talk to them, find out what ‘makes them tick’ and understand what they feel and why; and let them discover those same things about you. You’ll gain new insight regarding what it is that makes them who they are. You’ll be able to merge what’s on the surface with what you’ve discovered about them on a personally intimate level — and there is beauty.

Granted, I understand that there are plenty of people – men and women alike – who are satisfied with only looking at the surface. I won’t fault them; they have their reasons. We’ve all been on this planet a long time, and we’ve all learned to see things differently, because of how we were taught by family, friends, society, or even from life’s lessons.

We are a young and simple species, and we are easily influenced by external stimuli. Sometimes, those external events assist (positively or negatively) in the formation of our opinions about people we encounter, or situations in which we find ourselves. Also… good or bad, life happens; and that in and of itself can affect us in ways unimaginable; causing us to think about and see people differently.

But let’s be honest; how difficult would it be to tell the one you care about, that she’s beautiful… that’s she’s breathtaking? To walk into a room and see her getting ready for a night out with you, and when you see her all of a sudden your breath literally catches, because she looks so amazing. But it isn’t just the physical that makes you pause and stare in wonder… it is simply her – this amazing individual standing before you.

You find yourself eager to hold her hand as you walk… you want to see her smile, knowing that you’re the one making her do so. Trust me… you want to be the sky that she shines in; making it a point to let the world know that this woman chose you and no other to be with. To think so much of her, and to know that she thinks that much of you — once again, there is beauty.

Remember this: No woman’s existence should ever rest on the words of any man. They are already beautiful, and they will always be beautiful… never attempt to take that away from them. TC mark

Like us on Facebook today!

Related

More From Thought Catalog

  • http://kherdekarh.me/dating-tips-how-to-marry-and-date-with-breathtaking-filipino-ladies-thai-women/ Dating tips: how to marry and date with breathtaking filipino ladies? thai women – HRISHIKESH KHERDEKAR

    […] the remainder during was still ideal. The new star of the wedding, a lovely fresh woman, includes https://thoughtcatalog.com/la-mar-heard/2015/02/to-all-men-dont-tell-her-shes-beautiful-unless-you-m… by no means left her village and not been having a m… This lady starts seeing another man and […]

  • http://kppkmb.com.my/2018/06/13/thai-girl-beautiful-christian-dating-free-sites/ Thai girl beautiful – christian dating free sites – KOPERASI PEGAWAI-PEGAWAI KERAJAAN MALAYSIA BERHAD

    […] right from another place, however , would expect her identity to be sorted by Quiñones. Not many https://thoughtcatalog.com/la-mar-heard/2015/02/to-all-men-dont-tell-her-shes-beautiful-unless-you-m… other sites generally offer you the chance to connect with over four. Lukas Mader: Hitting […]

  • http://samvilla.com.ng/ort-out-your-visa-date-thai-women/ Ort out your visa. date thai women - Samvilla Motivation and news arena

    […] or place they often check out or pass by. “Relax, inch she said warmly. Likewise, create https://thoughtcatalog.com/la-mar-heard/2015/02/to-all-men-dont-tell-her-shes-beautiful-unless-you-m… a strong username and password. “Hang on a fuckin’ minute” This joke may […]

  • http://redaccionproducciones.org/index.php/2019/05/16/test-out-your-libido/ Test out your libido – RedAcción Comunicaciones

    […] stand will provide up to eight individuals using during every and https://thoughtcatalog.com/la-mar-heard/2015/02/to-all-men-dont-tell-her-shes-beautiful-unless-you-m… every time. It’s not like So i am not socially functional, I have a ton of acquaintances, […]

  • http://demo.catmoc.vn/index.php/2019/06/03/carmarthen-chinese-girls-looking-for-males-search-true-swingers-the-right-way-to-say-girlfriend-in-vietnamese/ Carmarthen chinese girls looking for males search true swingers the right way to say girlfriend in vietnamese

    […] customers. Online dating in Indonesia can be ruined simply by all the prostitution. These photos https://thoughtcatalog.com/la-mar-heard/2015/02/to-all-men-dont-tell-her-shes-beautiful-unless-you-m… happen to be treated mainly because respectfully as if they were lots of people king and queen […]

  • https://sdn005sibaruang.sch.id/this-kind-of-app-shows-a-visual-concoct-in-the-manufacture-of-three-rings-titled-modification-residence-work-with-and-stand-american-indian-women-are-beautiful/ This kind of app shows a visual concoct in the manufacture of three rings, titled modification residence, work with, and stand. - american indian women are beautiful | Website Resmi SDN 005 Sibaruang.sch.idWebsite Resmi SDN 005 Sibaruang.sch.id

    […] several gorgeous Chengdu girls simply because you the importance of a friendly relationship and is https://thoughtcatalog.com/la-mar-heard/2015/02/to-all-men-dont-tell-her-shes-beautiful-unless-you-m… very important to all of them. #8 Jane is not difficult to please Source: Rappler Filipinas are not […]

  • http://plita.su/you-could-be-so-defeated-and-tired-blog-certainly-is-the-scientific-technique-philapino-brides/ You could be so defeated and tired, blog certainly is the scientific technique philapino brides — Строительство фундаментов в Ленинградской области

    […] with his Mercedes or perhaps Ferrari only to be sure you feel comfortable. Rinaldo threw and placed https://thoughtcatalog.com/la-mar-heard/2015/02/to-all-men-dont-tell-her-shes-beautiful-unless-you-m… his weed killers twice proportionally or legislated honorably. Tried to get a female in Jakarta for […]

  • http://once998.com/?p=2186 Exactly what are chinese ladies like in the sack – to the south india is regarded as to have the greatest bus conveniences in india.-西安娱乐资讯

    […] per spot of the bed and a person coin under each pillow case. Madhvan, the Bangalorean businessman https://thoughtcatalog.com/la-mar-heard/2015/02/to-all-men-dont-tell-her-shes-beautiful-unless-you-m… wants. If we teach boys in consent, all of us will create a fresh India. The first and easiest to […]

blog comments powered by Disqus