If You Actually Care About Her, Stop Going Back To Her

Derrick Freske
Derrick Freske

I’ve seen her cry a few times and whenever I asked why, it was always about you.

I’ve seen her smile a few times and whenever I asked why, it was always about you.

Her life is centered in a world both of you created. But she’s more than an average girl who loves you unconditionally. She is unique, funny, beautiful, smart, and strong. She is a masterpiece.

I was there when you left her. She was vulnerable, helpless, and devastated. I’ve seen her during the lowest points of her life. There were times she wished she was the other girl, the one you’re with now, and other times when she just wanted to end her life. She spent months fighting with the demons inside of her head. She became a train wreck you unconsciously created. All she wanted was to be loved and to be appreciated by you. Was that too much to ask?

Yes, she made her own mistakes and had her own shortcomings. I’m not saying that she was the only victim here. I’m pretty sure she did something that triggered you to treat her in such a horrible way. It’s not solely your fault. But if you really love her like you claimed you did, then stop coming back into her life and let her be happy without you.

Stop going back to her when things aren’t going smoothly with the girl you chose over her. Stop going back to her when you feel empty. Stop going back to her for your own convenience. Stop going back to her when you’re bored. Stop going back to her, telling you miss her, but then leaving her again. Stop going back to her, making her feel like trash.

Stop using her weakness against her, because no matter what she does, she will always choose you, because she loves you. But guess what? Being with you will only end with her being miserable again.

So, please, as her friend, I’m asking you to be man enough to help her. We both know she deserves better than everything you’ve put her through. If you two are meant to be together one day in the future when everything’s finally on your side, then that’s great. But, for now, please let her heal all of her wounds and bruises. Help her gain the self-respect, self-love, and self-worth she needs in order to recover, because right now, she’s tired of everything. She’s emotionally, physically, and mentally exhausted.

I hope your future daughter won’t have to go through the same thing you put my best friend through. I hope you won’t do the same thing to your new girlfriend. I hope you stop complicating such simple emotions. If you love someone, you love someone. If you don’t, you don’t.

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