First of all, before you make comments about somebody’s anxiety, make sure that you know what anxiety is all about.
Anxiety looks like she is irritated all the time.
Anxiety looks like she’s having an obsessive behavior, repeating and asking things over and over again.
Anxiety looks like tons of worries built up in one body.
Anxiety looks like it has too much work to do and too much paperwork to finish.
Anxiety looks like it wants an excessive amount of what it needs to have to feel better about herself.
Anxiety feels dizzy and numb most of the time.
Anxiety is either sleeping too much or is awake until 4 in the morning.
Anxiety cannot focus on one thing, anxiety loses her concentration.
Anxiety looks like it’s avoiding you because it needs to be on its own to worry.
But that’s just how it looks, you haven’t seen how anxiety can lose control at the most unexpected time yet. Unless you have experienced them for yourself…
So this is the one thing you should stop telling someone with anxiety…
Stop telling them that everything’s going to be okay.
Stop telling them that tomorrow is another day and there’s always a rainbow after a rain.
Stop trying to make them feel better by your empty words because it’s killing them.
It makes them think that they are invalidated and unworthy to feel what they are feeling. It makes them feel as if they are pathetic to even worry about locking the doors or making sure everyone is having a good time.
Anxiety is depression’s friend and if anxiety isn’t addressed correctly, depression will creep in and take your person away.
You have to accept that it’s not going to be okay for a while and just be there for them when everything’s crumbling down. They’ll thank you for it.
And forgive them if they are trying to push you away.
Sometimes anxiety is the ugliest thing about a person, but when you start accepting it along with your friend. Then there’s nothing more to worry about.
They will keep fidgeting but eventually they will stop.
They will keep worrying but eventually they will feel comfortable enough.
They will keep doubting things and themselves, but that’s just anxiety taking over. Eventually they will get better and accept that it comes and goes, we just need to face it head on.
I remember falling in love with my anxiety. I remember accepting that there will be days when I will hate life and I will question everything around me.
I remember getting on with my life because I don’t need to stop just because I’m going through this.
I accepted the fact that it’s okay not to be okay for a while.
You should too.