5 Things To Do When Life Has Decided To Fuck You Up

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Life has a way of fucking all of us up just right when we thought everything is going the way we want them to. Everything would have been perfect, you know? Everything is perfect until the future catches up with you.

You wouldn’t have spilled that hot coffee on your favorite button-down shirt if it wasn’t for that biker chasing after the guy who stole his wallet while he was too busy flirting with the woman in a breakfast diner who happens to be married to the guy right across the street buying newspaper to see if he won the lottery this time.

They said everything happens for a reason. I have a hard time believing that for sometimes the reason comes when I’m not looking for it anymore. So, for the meantime here are the important things to do when life decided to fuck you up again.

And again.

And again.

1.  Keep Calm and Breathe

The first thing you have to do is to breathe, know that you got this. Count one to ten and then smash plates, watch it as it breaks down into tiny shreds of nothing. Shout at the top of your lungs in a high building somewhere and then go back to breathing. Count one to ten.

One, you’re alive.

Two, three, four, five, see? You’re still alive.

Six, seven, eight, nine go on keep going.

Ten, you’re still here.

Told you, you got this.

2.  Accept and Let Go

Once you’ve calmed down, accept things as they are. Like they said, things happen for a reason. Where is that reason? I don’t know, maybe stuck in traffic somewhere but it’ll come to you. Once you understand that refusing to accept what has happened cannot change things or make it go back to the way it was before, let go. Yep, let it go, stop overthinking about it; stop contemplating whether what’s happened is your fault or not. Life has a way of ruining things and making them all better again. Free yourself from stress.

3.  Move On

Go on with your life. Carry on. Let life mend what it has broken. Let life stress about itself. Move on.

4.  Live

Do not be afraid to live to the fullest; do not play on the safe side. Play hard. As long as you are not hurting someone, live. I know life can be a bitch. I know that it can also be your best friend but do not let life consume you that you forget how to have fun. Fuck life. Go and be happy.

5.  Then Wait

Last but not least, wait. Wait until the next time that life fucks you up again and be ready. This time carry the things you have learned the last time it tore you apart and use it as a fuel. Use it as if it is your skill and you are playing a video game. Kill ‘em all. Use it as if it is your superpower as if it is what’s going to save you because it can if you just know how to use it right.

Next time, face it with your head held high. Remember all the times it put you on your knees to beg.

You are stronger now, you got this. TC mark

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