11 Signs Of Emotionally Intelligent People


We talk so much about intelligence, but not about emotional intelligence. We know about the importance of IQ, but what about EQ? I believe it’s VERY underrated and we need to change that.

Here are some traits of highly emotional intelligent people:

1. They are self-aware.

They have the ability to see themselves as who they really are, separate from everyone else around them. Self-aware people are in touch with their own emotions, personal strengths and weaknesses, thoughts, values, beliefs, and what motivates them or not. They have a better understanding of other personalities, their traits, and how to act toward them.

2. They are empaths or at least empathic.

First you need to know that empaths are born that way, but being empathic is something all, or most, of us can learn. They put others in front of themselves as long as it’s doable. Harmony in any given circumstance is something they strive to create. They are being affected by others’ emotions and energies—so balance is super-important to them. They want to make the desires and wishes come true for the ones around them as often as possible. They want to motivate and inspire others to grow as well.

3. They want to grow and learn more every day.

They want to grow and make others grow with them. They believe there is enough success for everyone and thus don’t try to compete with others—they compete with themselves to strive for a better and happier future. They don’t believe they know everything and are open to learn from new ideas and theories. Growing and thriving as an individual is an important part of their everyday life.

4. They don’t like to do “small talk” or talk shallow.

They want to dig deeper and connect with people on a greater level of consciousness. They don’t have time to talk shit about others. They use their time wisely when it comes to what and whom they choose to talk to and about. When they talk, they want to learn something from you and get to know the things that are worth knowing.

5. They don’t take things personally.

It’s hard to offend them or make them lose their minds when talking or trying to argue with them. They stay calm and collected and know intuitively what to say—but also what to do with their body language to ease the tension. If you barely know them, why would they get offended? You don’t even have the capacity to talk on a personal level yet. They’ll most likely just brush it off and go on with their day.

6. They know what to say and how to say it to motivate.

They are aware of the triggers that motivate them. They are a good judge of character, which makes them kings and queens of knowing which buttons to push to motivate and empower other people. They use this skill to help, not to manipulate!

7. They perform small and big acts of kindness.

And the best part? They do it without wanting anything in return. They don’t do you a favor and then expect you to give or do something back—they just do it because they want to. AMEN!

8. They are very grateful souls.

They appreciate who they are, what they have, whom they have, and where they are in their life right now. They understand that in order to get more, they need to see the value in what they already have—simple as that. It’s so beautiful AND powerful to really feel the emotions attached to people who truly are grateful in their hearts. I’ve seen a couple, and I frickin’ love it! I love how they work with what they have and build awesomeness out of that.

9. They know the importance of health.

They take care of themselves physically, spiritually, emotionally, and mentally. They know that if they’re going to be the best version of themselves, they HAVE to stay healthy in all kinds of ways. They understand that everything is connected.

10. They don’t feel like they need to show off or prove themselves to others.

They work in silence and let the success talk for itself. They understand that the right people are the ones worth showing their passions to and to keep sharing ideas with. They hate to brag and would much rather talk about others’ success than their own.

11. They live with integrity.

These people live for integrity and it’s just a part of who they are. They do what they say they’re gonna do, and they do it with authenticity. They know that even the hardest and scariest tasks need to be done in order to thrive in life—so they just frickin’ do it! Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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