I’m Slowly Learning To Stop Treating Myself Worse Than Everyone Else

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I’m slowly learning to stop treating myself worse than everyone else. To stop acting like I am a failure. I will treat myself as well as I treat everyone around me. I will be kind. I will talk to myself like I would talk to a friend. I will show myself the love and compassion I bring into others’ lives.

As an overthinker and naturally anxious person, my mind never turns off. I beat myself up. I second guess every decision. If you’re anything like me, you’re hard AF on yourself. You give everyone but yourself the benefit of the doubt.

But it’s not fair. It’s not fair to you. It’s not fair to criticize yourself. This year I will stop calling myself stupid. I will give myself the respect I deserve. Every decision I make yields a result, and they will not all turn out the way I want. That doesn’t make me stupid, it makes me human. I need to be okay with that. It is life.

I will stop comparing myself to everyone around me. What I’ve learned is that everyone has their own struggles. Everyone’s struggling in some ways. Social media has a way of painting a picture-perfect image of our lives that is largely false. I will learn to let go of that ideal. I will come to the conclusion that my life is just that — mine. I have the ability to create the life I want to lead. I control all my decisions. I have all the control I need. Life is not about comparisons.

I will learn to live more in the moment. To enjoy the time I have with friends and family. Sometimes we don’t get them back. I don’t want to have regrets.

Self-love is hard, but you are your own anchor. And you, only you, have the ability to stay grounded. You control your life and destiny. It all starts with loving yourself.

I’m slowly learning to love myself more through the ups and downs. To love the imperfections. I’m not perfect, but I’m trying. And that counts for something. TC mark

Kristin Rattigan

27. Chicago. I prefer kids to adults 99% of the time.

To love yourself should be no quiet affair, but a loud uprising.

“Never forget,
you are more powerful
than you are damaged
and you will rise
from any abyss
they drown you in.”

— Nikita Gill, Your Heart Is The Sea

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