
Iâve been a girlie girl for as long as I can remember.
In fact, I was a girlie girl before I was even conscious of the sunglasses on my face or the ruffles on my clothes. The apple doesnât fall far from the tree, and as I get older, Iâve noticed I am becoming more and more like my mother, one of ladiest of ladies.
Although Iâve always been known to have a dry wit, a lot of guy friends, and would be more likely at a sports bar than dancing at a club, I would never, ever, put down my lipstick, listen to a guy advise me on what to wear, or stop shaving my legs in the winter.
Why on earth do women think they need a man to take care of themselves?
Itâs so, so ridiculous.
I donât know about you, but I do everything I do for me.
Over the years, my boyfriends have tried and tell me not to wear makeup. Theyâve encouraged me to put on a pair of jeans and ditch the dress, to stop wearing the big sunglasses, to grow out my hair, and to take off my lipgloss. Theyâve told me to dress sexy, theyâve told me to stay in sweatpants, and hell, theyâve even told me what they wanted their ex-girlfriends to wear.
And you know what? I kept doing what I wanted to do.
I will never cease to roll my eyes at any magazine or propaganda that informs women how to please their man, dress for their man, or attract more men. You know what I have to say to that? Be your damn self, because thatâs how youâll attract the right man.
I know what youâre thinking: âThis girl is single, what does she know?â Well, Iâm the one who called off a wedding 10 years ago and has lived with three men over the course of my life, and Iâve always been the one to leave. I donât stick around for the stifling; I would much rather be free, happy, and myself. Iâm waiting for the one who embraces my girliness, loves my lipstick, and encourages me to be me. Iâll wait forever if I have to.
I suppose I just canât come to terms with women who donât want to do things for themselves.  Being a girlie girl doesnât make you weak, being graceful doesnât make you any less powerful, and embracing your femininity doesnât mean a man can walk all over you.
Being female is a superpower.
So, take your power back.
My wish is for women to stop putting so much weight on menâs opinions and how it makes them think of themselves. I donât want to hear about women changing their clothes because of a manâs opinion, memes complaining about having to take care of yourself because of a date, or videos like this. No. Just no.
Shave your damn legs for yourselves, ladies. Trust me, it feels great.