1. You only see each other at mutual friends events like weddings, baby showers, bachelorette parties, etc. Except it doesn’t feel like a bad thing even though part of you feels like it should.
2. You can’t remember the last time you really talked to them and caught up on what was going on in each other’s lives. It feels like a lifetime ago.
3. When people ask you how they are doing, your automated response is, “They’re doing well.” Even if you actually have no clue about how they’re doing.
4. If something important happens – important good or important bad – you don’t feel like you need to tell them. Not so long ago, they would have been the first people you called.
5. You have to go on social media to know what their life is like. And it is inundated with people you don’t know, and things you didn’t know they were interested in.
6. Your enjoyment of their college stories about you has reached it’s peak. Yes, you let out the odd chuckle but mostly you find a lot of them tired and overdone.
7. You forget each others birthdays unless you’re reminded by one of your lovely social networking sites, or another friend.
8. And if you do remember each other’s birthdays, you no longer call or send a card or present. You both send fairly generic texts without a second thought.
9. They talk about something that they like or dislike and you had no idea that they felt that way. Somewhere along the way, their tastes, interests, and peeves changed, without you knowing.
10. Most of your hilarious stories about your nights out used to involve them and you. Now they involve you and other people or them and other people.
11. You used to see eye to eye on a lot of things. Now it feels like you don’t see eye to eye on many things, and find yourself sticking to general, polite conversation.
12. When you look at old pictures with them, you feel a certain type of nostalgia. But deep down in your heart, you’re uncertain whether you’ll be as close as you were in those pictures.
13. Sometimes you feel like you should make the extra effort to reignite the friendship or maybe talk about the obvious distance. And then you feel that maybe this is just how things are meant to be, and your closeness was only supposed to be for a time.
14. Ultimately, whenever you’re around each other, it feels a little awkward and well, forced. The kind of awkward that reeks of somebody that you used to know.