This Is How You Find Your ‘Why’ And Watch Your Entire Life Change

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Up until about 6 months ago, I didn’t know my why. I knew where I wanted to be. I knew the passion I had buried inside of me. But the only thing missing was the why behind it.

And without that, the rest seemed impossible.

I woke up and went about my day just like every other day for the past year and a half-completely unhappy. I hated every part of my life, yet didn’t do a thing about it. Even my thoughts hated me. I didn’t know who I was, and for the split seconds that I thought I did, my vision of myself was a great deal less than the truth. I was at the bottom of the abyss with no way to climb out.

Until I did something that changed my entire life.

I sat down and truly asked myself what I wanted out of my life. What my why was. What can I do to get out of this rut to become this powerful woman I felt destined to be. And there it was, in plain sight, what I thought I knew all along.

I wanted to be there for others because I knew all too well what it felt like not to have anybody there for me. I wanted to make a difference through my writing that would bring awareness and change to those who were in the same exact position.

It took me awhile to bring action to that why, but it really doesn’t have to for you. Everyone changes at different speeds, and what works for others might not always work for you. Rest assured though, you can get there. It’s so simple, you just have to want it bad enough.

With that being said, I hope the advice I’m about to give will alter your perception on the value of life and to make you realize that the only thing standing in your way to finding out your why-is you.

You decide who you want to be. You have to make a choice; one that will send you flying into the best version of yourself. There comes a time in your life where you just won’t be satisfied anymore. You won’t be happy with just the bare minimum. You won’t feel fulfilled-and that’s when you have to make the hardest choice you will ever have to make.

How do you want your life to play out? What is it that will get you there?

You are the only one that gets to decide who you want to be. The only person that gets to choose how you get there. You set the rules. You set the guidelines. In music, it’s called setting the tempo. I remember back in 6th grade when I was first learning how to play the flute. I would get so upset because the piece of music I was trying to learn was too fast for me. I could’ve continued and kept failing, sure. But instead, I decided to slow down the tempo and figure it out at my own speed. In no time I was playing as beautiful as my two little hands and a belly full of breath could play.

It’s entirely up to you to choose how you want your life to pan out-nobody else’s. Along with that comes the responsibility of the choices you make to get there, and what I want to pound into the ground is that there isn’t anything you can’t be. There isn’t anything you can’t do. And there isn’t anything you can’t have.

In a world populated by 7.6 billion people, you are the only one that has the power to assess how well you’re doing.

It starts with a decision you make today and continues with the choices you make every hour of every day to get there. Remember that.

If you believe it, it will happen. Every minute of every day, energy is being placed into the universe. You are constantly creating an energy within yourself that sets you up for either failure or success. If you can see it in your mind, you can hold it in your hand. Everything you can see, everything you can touch, was once just someone’s idea. If you think about what it is you truly want to be in life, every single day, you will get there. Don’t focus so much on the things you are terrible at. What you should be doing is putting every last ounce of drive into what you are great at. The things that make you feel great.

It’s going to take a tremendous amount of effort. It’s not going to be easy. You will have to continue to make a series of choices that will nurture your idea of success. Your personalized visualization of life. Think about the way you want your life to be. Dispose of every thought that doesn’t correlate with this vision.

If you continue to live your life feeling powerless, wake up every single day and repeat to yourself that you are powerful. You are powerful. You will be powerful.

Take responsibility for your life. “Only when you say ‘I did this’ can you find the power to change it.” Who cares if you fucked up and made a series of poor decisions. It’s a period we all go through. But only until you realize that you are responsible for everything that has happened to you, for everything that will continue to happen to you, will you ever find success.

Take responsibility for your actions. “We attract not just what we fear, we attract what we feel, what we are.” If you are always pointing the blame at someone else, you will come to find that bad things will continue to happen to you. If your finger is always shoved in the face of others, your sense of responsibility will suffer. Ultimately, your why will suffer.

It’s much easier to change what you are doing than to change what someone else is doing.

Conjure up your highest thought about yourself. The thought that makes you feel perfect. Move into that. Move into the metaphorical house of your dreams and live upon every perfect thought about yourself. The ones that make you feel powerful. Can you imagine the you that you would be if you lived that thought every day?

I used to be a huge participant in negative thinking. I was constantly overwhelmed, and I never amounted to anything simply because the power of my thoughts outweighed the truth. The way you think about yourself plays a huge role in how well you live your life. Start telling yourself that you can achieve whatever you want to achieve. That you can do anything you put your mind too. Because the reality of it is, you can.

The ball is in your court. Nurture your why and great things will come for you. TC mark

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