This Is Everything You’re Not

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You aren’t what that person said about you, you aren’t who your sibling is, you aren’t the person your ex made you feel like, you aren’t who your parents are and you most certainly are not what has been done to you. 

Many of us have things that happen in our life that make us feel like our life is harder than it should be. Whether it’s a bad family, some sort of abuse, a mental illness, or whatever it may be, we can’t help but feel like that’s who we are. I have said it before, but it’s probably one of the most important things I have taught myself, sometimes things happen to us and we have to deal with them, but many times things happen around us that we don’t have to let affect us or become us.

No matter where we are in our lives we can literally be whoever we want to be. I don’t just mean in a career, I mean in every aspect of life. You don’t have to be who you were growing up, or last year, or even yesterday.

If that person said something to/about you, it uses their energy and affects them much more than it will affect you if you choose not to let it.

Have a sibling that’s living a life you hate? Well, guess what, you aren’t your sibling, you’re you so you decide who that is.

Have an ex that made you feel bad about yourself? I think it says a lot more about them than it says about you, you’re better than they made you feel.

Have a family you don’t want to grow up like? You’re related to them but you are not the same as them, you can take any path you desire.

Whatever the circumstances are, if you fight hard enough for something there’s no reason not to achieve it.

Every person deserves to know how great they are, and it’s not defined by things, people, or events that happen to you. Your life wasn’t decided for you when you were put here, you create it. I hate for anyone to go through life feeling like they don’t have the choice to do what they want or be happy. It’s the Law of Attraction, really, if you let yourself believe you can’t be happy, then you won’t be. I’m not saying it’s easy, but you will instantly feel better deciding that you want to work on being something, and you will be. TC mark

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