You Gotta Love Her On Her Good Days As Well As Her Bad Ones

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You have to love her at her best when she’s happy and smiling. Love her in all the good moments. The days where you look at her and you think you’re the lucky one.

Love her on the nights out where you are laughing and smiling like you are the only ones in the room. Love her on the nights where you’re holding her close and something about her touch just makes your toes curl. The mornings you wake up holding her. The naps where you’re just happy she’s there.

Love her in the moments she makes you laugh so hard you’re crying. Love her in the moments you’re watching your favorite show even though she doesn’t like it, she doesn’t say anything.

Love her in the moments she suggests hanging with your family.

Love her when she’s making you better. Helping to do the right thing. Giving you the advice you actually take. And being there to listen. Whether it’s problems with your family and she’s there to comfort you or things you feel you’re facing alone and she doesn’t let you.

Love her when she doesn’t something well. Achieves something or gets a promotion or overcomes that hurdle you knew she could but she fell so many times before.

Love her when she’s singing terribly in the car but just looks at you smiling. When she leans in to kiss you at a red light. Love her in the little moments that come to mean so much.

But it isn’t just about loving her on her good days. You have to love her on her bad ones too.

Love her on those days she’s not herself and understand, it’s okay. Know that it’s not always your fault or something you can fix. You gotta love her when she’s depressed and struggling to get out of a funk because we all have those days. But it isn’t all of who she is.

You gotta love her when she’s anxious and worried. And try to understand the root of her fears. Understand it’s not something within her control.

You gotta love her when she falls flat on her face failing at something because she’s going to be harder on herself than anyone and it’s up to you to pick her back up.

Love her on the days when she’s had too much to drink and might need you to take care of her as she whispers words telling you exactly how much cares.

You gotta love her when she’s frazzled and trying to figure things out and when she’s unsure of everything in her life don’t make how you feel and your relationship something she has to be uncertain of or worry about.

Love her when she runs into people who use her and take advantage of her kindness and hurt her. And she walks away hurt from it thinking she did something wrong.

You gotta love her when she fights with her family and is holding back tears because you know what happened wasn’t her fault.

Love her in the moments where she does make a mistake and is wrong and teach her it’s okay she’s not perfect because to you she is. But she’s always going to try to be better and beat herself up in moments she’s not.

You gotta love her when she bites off more than she can chew and chokes on it drowning the weight of others expectations and the fear of letting them down.

Love her in those moments where she struggles to love herself. Because that’s when she needs you most.

She not perfect. And she’s going to make mistakes. And she might say and do the wrong things sometimes. And there are going to be moments where it frustrates you and you might want to walk away.

But she’s going to give you a part of herself that’s more valuable than any flaw or even her best qualities. Her heart.

And who is to say if you’ll be her last love or just a lesson. But for right now, you matter. And right now, even in her worst moments she’s doing her best.

But if she can make you laugh when you need it. Think deeply and push you to make the right choice. Love her on her worst days and on her best.

Don’t hurt her. Don’t try and change her too much unless it’s to make her better. Don’t expect more than what she can give. Because she’s folded trying to be good enough for others.

And enjoy her company. Because the girl you can love at her worst will give you her best and she’s still going to walk away thinking she’s the lucky one. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

Writer living in Hoboken, NJ with my 2 dogs.

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