I Hate Seeing You Girls In Such Bad Relationships Hurting This Much

Asdrubal Luna

The girls who send me messages. The girls who blow up my newsfeed liking a hundred pictures at 2AM because something about toxic relationships and not getting what they deserve resonates with them.

I hate when girls tell me they love him and they want to win him back. Part of me wants to scream through my computer screen or cell phone that he’s not worth it isn’t really love but infatuation. But who am I to tell someone how they really feel?

What I do know is what it’s like to fall for someone really hard. And it’s someone you would do anything for. And you jump through hoops trying to impress him. You read the signs you want to read and not the ones that are there.

I hate seeing girls in so much pain over a relationship that doesn’t deserve them. The girls who feel like it was their loss.

The girls who think they will never love someone that deeply again. I hope you don’t.

Because loving someone at the cost of losing yourself that’s something you’ll never gain back and it’ll ruin you.

I hate when girls try to justify guys bad behavior and make up excuses for him. Because no it’s not a bad time. He’s not still healing over his ex.

Anyone who blames their past isn’t ready for a present relationship.

I hate the girls who wait for someone like they are just some coat in the closet he can pick and choose when he wants.

I hate when girls say they have no choice but to answer and they can’t just ignore him. You always have a choice and when you let guys like that become habits you’re going to think they control you and the truth is they do and they know it and they will use that to their advantage.

I hate when girls tell me they aren’t the relationship type, yet here they are sneaking out of bed past 11PM because he called. All you are to him is some temporary high and once he gets his fix he’ll be over it.

I hate when girls try so hard for someone who doesn’t deserve it. Because there are so many other people who do, who would not only treat you right but reciprocate those feelings.

I hate when girls get led on and messed with and confused because you don’t deserve that. But you shouldn’t go along with it either.

I hate when girls stick around when they know they should walk away but they stay put because they care. And I wish it was as easy as just not care about someone who doesn’t care about you.

I hate when girls text him instead of trusting their instinct and they get a response or lack thereof and they feel even worse about themselves because they did it.

I think I hate it so much because I know what it’s like to be there.

I know what it’s like to settle.
I know what it’s like to be confused and led and fucked with so much you don’t even trust yourself.

I know what it’s like to care a little too much sometimes even though they don’t deserve it.

I know what it’s like to stare at your phone and hate yourself for it.

But when you finally find the courage to let go of these people who are causing you pain what you’ll find is yeah you might miss them but it’s only when you let go of someone or something you don’t deserve can you attract something and someone you do.

I hate seeing girls in so much pain and hurting because everyone has a choice about the relationships they have.

There are enough bad things in our life relationships shouldn’t be one of them.

If someone isn’t treating you well, you walk away and you don’t look back and you don’t dwell on who they used to be.

I hate when girls fall in love with the idea of what they want someone to be rather than who they actually are. The truth is he’s never going to be the person you need even if you want him the most.

Sometimes you get don’t end up with the person you wanted more than anyone and that’s okay because sometimes you meet someone better.

Better is that relationship that looks and feels right that’s what is instore for you if you find the courage to walk away from guys who use you, won’t commit to you, take advantage of you and don’t care.

For every guy who has ever ignored you.
For every guy who has ever messed with your head.
For every guy who lives for mixed signals and games.
For every guy who has every used you for sex.
Then made you leave after the fact.
For every apology you got that came too late.
From some fuckboy who only reached out to see if you’d answer.
For every guy who blows up your new, feed and opens your snaps.
Who sends you things then doesn’t answer.
For every guy who has ever walked away.
For every guy who has ever made you cry.
For every guy who has ever cheated.
For every guy who heard the words I love you and didn’t say it back.
For every guy who has ever lied to you or didn’t tell the whole truth.
For every guy who always thought you’d always be there.
For every guy who has ever said what if or maybe.
For every guy who ever said let’s keep this between us.
For every guy who chose physical over an emotional relationship.
For every guy who ever made you feel less about yourself.
For every guy who has ever made you feel unwanted.
For every guy who made you feel unloved.
For every guy who ever put on the sideline while he dated someone else.

For every guy like that there’s someone who is completely opposite of him. Someone who will love you. Someone who will adore. But most of all he’s going to be someone who stays.

Because you deserve someone as great as you are.

And that’s the message I’m going to look forward to getting. The one that tells me I was right. You met someone better. And you healed. TC mark

Kirsten Corley

Kirsten is the author of But Before You Leave, a book of poetry about the experiences we struggle to put into words.

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The cover and theme for my newest book was inspired by the concept of kintsugi. All that is dark or cracked within us has the capacity to be fixed, to be filled with light. We are never broken. We are always becoming. 

“Live a life that is driven; not by fear, but by love.” — Bianca Sparacino

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