Don’t Call Her Emotionally Damaged

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Don’t call her emotionally damaged just because she’s a little more sensitive. She takes things a little bit harder than most people. She leads with her heart and not her head sometimes.

Don’t call her emotionally damaged just because she has a past full of a lot of trial and errors because it was there she learned. She got smarter and more careful and began to realize not everyone has the best intentions for her even though she has the best intentions for everyone else.

Don’t call her emotionally damaged just because she needs a lot of a partner. When she’s given her best in the past and all people ever did was take advantage of it, she’s going to need a lot to get over that and trust someone again. But as much as she needs if you are willing to give that she’ll reciprocate it in ways you can’t even imagine.

Don’t call her emotionally damaged just because she’s paranoid. She’s allowed to be. She’s watched as people have changed their mind about her without even so much as a reason. She’s allowed to be skeptical and scared. She’s allowed to be afraid of someone leaving because so many people who swore they weren’t going to, did.

Don’t call her emotionally damaged just because something really horrible happened to her. The fact she didn’t let that affect her more than it has, shows her strength and resilience. She’s stronger than you give her credit for.

Don’t call her emotionally damaged just because the ways she dates and handles herself is different from anyone else you’ve known. Because it takes a lot to wear your heart on your sleeve and still trust people when it seems everyone has given you reasons not to.

Don’t call her emotionally damaged just because she’s had a lot of bad relationships. Be the one who teaches her what a good one is. Be the except she wants so desperately to believe in.

Don’t call her emotionally damaged just because other people have influenced the way she sees herself. Be the one who builds her back up again. Be the strength she can rely because she’s only ever relied on herself.

Don’t call her emotionally damaged just because she’s complicated. The best people usually are. And those people who have been through the most, have gotten hurt more times than they deserved, saw the world for what it really was on so many occasions and saw how cruel people could be are the ones that come out the kindest and most compassionate. The ones who understand things at a level most people never will.

Don’t call her emotionally damaged just because she’s fallen a few times. Give her credit for getting back up and trying again. Because that’s the thing about her she’s never going to stop trying. She’s never going to stop believing and seeing the good in things. She’s never going to change. And that’s rare to find someone beautiful enough to endure so many things and not let it change them.

Don’t call her emotionally damaged because she’s not. She’s strong.

And what you consider damage. What you consider broken. They are 100 little-shattered pieces that make her into exactly who she is.

Every scar. Every story. Every mark. It’s beauty if you can recognize it. TC mark

Kirsten Corley

Kirsten is the author of But Before You Leave, a book of poetry about the experiences we struggle to put into words.

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The cover and theme for my newest book was inspired by the concept of kintsugi. All that is dark or cracked within us has the capacity to be fixed, to be filled with light. We are never broken. We are always becoming. 

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