You Think You Lost Her


You think you lost her just because things ended.

You think it’s over just because she said so.

You think love has run out because you feel empty with every moment you try and forget.

You think you lost her just because she’s not around.

You think she doesn’t care just because she’s not showing it.

You think it doesn’t hurt her to lead a life without you.

But the truth is maybe she ended it.

Maybe she walked away.

Maybe in moments it feels like she gave up.

But I know she still thinks of you.

The truth is everyone has doubts.

Everyone is filled with uncertainty.

Everyone looks back and wonders about the choices they made.

You think you lost her but that’s impossible.

Because you can never truly lose someone you loved.

Someone who loved you just as deeply.

Maybe it seems like she moved on.

Maybe she appears happier without you.

But you aren’t someone you get over that easy.

You’re the love she’ll compare everyone else too.

You’re the relationship that stumbled into her life and changed her.

And if you don’t believe me just look at her. You think you lost her but so much of the woman she turned into was a reflection of the love you showed her. If you broke her down and stripped her of all that she was, you’d pieces of yourself there.

You think you lost her but that can’t ever be the case..

And maybe you’ve tried to fight for her only to lose yourself.

Maybe you met her more than halfway and you had to stop.

Maybe it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with timing and situations and where she is in her life. It’s scary when you look at someone and meet the person you can imagine spending the rest of your life with. And it’s even scarier when you aren’t ready for that sort of forever.

You think you lost her because she said goodbye. But people who are meant to be find their way back to each other in the end.

Maybe time and space and distance need to be what happens first.

But anyone who can walk away from someone like you in the first place I won’t say fool but I will say is foolish.

You are the type of person people come across once in a lifetime lighting up both the lives and hearts within everyone you come across.

You are the type of person who changes everyone you meet.

And I know you think you lost her but she’ll realize. Maybe when it hits her, it’ll be too late. Or maybe it’ll be at a time when you both are ready to pursue this.

Hold onto faith that if you love her she’ll find her way back to you.

But don’t freeze your life waiting for her to realize the same thing a lot of people already know without having to leave to realize it. You are one of a kind.

And there isn’t a breakup. A goodbye. An ending that should make you feel inadequate.

You think you lost her.

I look forward to the day when that goodbye makes you realize it happened for a reason.

And there’s no telling what that reason could be.

Maybe it’s so you can find your way back again.

Or maybe you meet someone who counts their blessing that it didn’t work out in the first place and you look in the eyes of someone new, a little scared to open your heart to someone again. But it’s only when you open your heart can it heal again.

You think you lost her but that’d be impossible because it isn’t your loss in all this. It’s hers. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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Kirsten Corley

Writer living in Hoboken, NJ with my 2 dogs.

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