1. If she wears her heart on her sleeve.
It’s not an easy thing to do, especially now. Everyone hides what they feel behind screens and never says what they mean. But if she’s blunt and doesn’t hold back how she feels, see the value in someone like that.
2. If she’s authentic.
She’s the girl who beats to her own drum. Rules. She makes up her own. Saying things she shouldn’t, she says it, anyway. Owning the shit out of who she is even if it’s flawed and full of mistakes takes confidence. To stand out in a world where everyone tells you to fit it, it’s never been her style.
3. If she’s well read.
Girls who read know the importance of knowledge. They know to learn more and challenge yourself comes in the what you read. When you ask her what’s she reading now, the answer is never nothing.
4. If she’s gone through something difficult.
The best girls are the ones who haven’t had it easy. The ones who have been forced to overcome things and situations that they didn’t choose. And while you may not know what that is at first, every girl has gone through something that’s changed them and as result of overcoming it, you’ll notice a strength to her you can’t help but admire. It’s that strength that will help you overcome things in your own life.
5. If she’s passionate about something.
When you ask her what she does, she doesn’t respond just with a job title. She responds with the things she cares about. Maybe it’s a hobby. Maybe it’s an organization. Whatever it is, you see her eyes light up when she talks about it.
6. If she has goals.
If want to become a better person, attach yourself to someone who is self-motivated and constantly trying to improve. Girls with goals aren’t the ones waiting for things to happen but they are the ones who go out and make it happen.
7. If she’s supportive.
Whatever choice you make in your life, she’s got your back. She’s in your corner. And even when you might have doubts she’s the confident one reassuring you that you can do this.
8. If she challenges you.
The right girl will be the one who pushes you. The one who sees your potential. She builds you up with kindness and compliments until you start seeing yourself through her eyes.
9. If she owns up to her mistakes.
She doesn’t blame you or anyone else for the things she’s done wrong or the choices she’s made. She admits it. She apologizes. She tries to make it right and she moves on. Healthy people are the ones who learn from their mistakes instead of dwelling on them.
10. If she forgives you, for yours.
She doesn’t bring up something wrong you’ve done from months before. She doesn’t blackmail you or make you feel bad. You make a mistake. You each work to fix it and as a result, the relationship becomes stronger.
11. If she has good intentions.
She’s nice. Strong women don’t tear others down to gain their power. They lift others up and help those in need because she knows the best thing you can be in the world we live in is kind.
12. If she’s honest.
The best girls are the ones who don’t have reasons to lie. Everything about her is brutally honest that you trust her with your greatest secrets.
13. If she’s willing to change to improve.
She knows the importance of constantly improving. And if you can stick with her through trial and error and learning because none of us are perfect, when she amounts to the best version of herself, you’ll be right there next to her even more proud.
14. If she accepts your flaws and shortcomings.
She knows you aren’t perfect but even if she could change anything about you, she wouldn’t.
15. If she isn’t afraid to love you.
She doesn’t let her past experiences interfere with her current relationship. She knows everyone deserves a fair shot. And you’ll watch as you fall for her slowly and when she says I love you, you’ll know she means it.