This Is How You Ruin A Nice Girl

God & Man

You ruin nice girls by taking their love for granted.

You ruin nice girls by lying to them when all they’ve ever been is honest.

You ruin nice girls when you suddenly expect things and stop saying thank you.

You ruin nice girls thinking, their kindness is their greatest weakness.

You ruin nice girls by telling them they need to change.

By choosing someone else who treats you worse.

You ruin nice girls by leading them on and playing games.

When all they’ve been is real.

You ruin nice girls when they give you their heart and you don’t see the value it in.

You ruin nice girls by just wanting to be friends. But by changing your tune the second alcohol presses against your lips.

You ruin nice girls by putting them on the back burner and thinking they will always be there.

You ruin nice girls when you stop meeting them halfway.

When you make them try too hard. Care too much. Without giving even a little bit.

You ruin nice girls when you break their heart and you make them think it’s their fault.

You ruin nice girls when you walk away because you realize they have nothing left to give you.

You ruin nice girls when they finally give up. And they don’t have a strength to keep going.

You ruin nice girls when they walk away and you don’t even care to notice.

You ruin nice girls the moment they realize they have to protect their heart.

And they change because of that.

They change because they have to.

Because if they didn’t change they would keep getting hurt.

And eventually even the best, kindest, biggest heart can’t handle pain they didn’t deserve to begin with.

So their heart becomes cold.

Everything about them becomes numb.

Their touch is one in the dark that’s no longer soft.

Physically they might be there but emotionally they’re checked out.

Their eyes look at others seeing not the good in them but how they will be decieved.

They listen to words strung together that sound nice but don’t believe it.

Their voices become silent because they don’t want to waste them.

They put up walls no one can get past.

They learn to protect themselves because they’ve been taught they have to.

This is how you ruin a nice girl. TC mark

Kirsten Corley

Kirsten is the author of But Before You Leave, a book of poetry about the experiences we struggle to put into words.

Trace the scars life has left you. It will remind you that at one point, you fought for something. You believed.

“You are the only person who gets to decide if you are happy or not—do not put your happiness into the hands of other people. Do not make it contingent on their acceptance of you or their feelings for you. At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter if someone dislikes you or if someone doesn’t want to be with you. All that matters is that you are happy with the person you are becoming. All that matters is that you like yourself, that you are proud of what you are putting out into the world. You are in charge of your joy, of your worth. You get to be your own validation. Please don’t ever forget that.” — Bianca Sparacino

Excerpted from The Strength In Our Scars by Bianca Sparacino.

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