You’re Giving The Best Pieces Of Yourself To The Wrong People

John-Mark Kuznietsov
John-Mark Kuznietsov

I know what it’s like to look at your reflection and the only thing you see are flaws. And you don’t want that to be the case. You think if nothing is wrong with you, why do you keep getting hurt? Why does everything end the same way? You give your best, yet it doesn’t seem like it’s ever enough.

So what more can you do if your best isn’t enough? What factors can change if you continue to get the same result.

You can change and try to be something you’re not…but that didn’t work right?

What you have to realize is it isn’t you that is the problem it’s the people you are choosing that is.

You’re giving the best of yourself to the worst of people. But you have to realize there are a lot of people out there who don’t deserve your best.

Save it. Until someone proves they are worthy of you in your best form, hold back. Stop trying so hard. Stop trying to prove it’s you that deserves them. Because the reality is it’s them that is worthy of being in your presence.

But that starts with believing it.

I know you aren’t arrogant or pompous or conceited. If you were even a little of those things you wouldn’t find yourself so hurt.

They say you gotta love yourself before someone can love you, but it isn’t just about that; the truth is you gotta just get to a point where you look at yourself in the mirror and think you’re worthy of the best kind of love.

Then have enough strength and self-worth to walk away when someone doesn’t give that to you.

I’ll tell you what you don’t deserve. You don’t deserve someone’s half hearted love. You don’t deserve pain to feel normal. You deserve someone who is going to enhance your life in such a way it leaves you feeling whole, not someone who makes you feel empty as you wake to a either no texts or a call at 3am.

You have so much to offer someone, yet you don’t see it because you give so much, so soon, you don’t have anything left for yourself.

Be a little selfish when it comes to love. In fact be very selfish. Because your heart and your emotions aren’t something someone should fuck with.

But more than that, you shouldn’t allow them to.

I know what it’s like to look at your phone and just be happy they answered. I know it’s like to settle. But love is the last thing in your life you should settle for.

So start now. Promise yourself now, only give your best to people who have taken the time to prove they deserve it.

I challenge you to let go of everyone in your life, and when you do the worthy ones will still be holding on for dear life.

Those are the people who deserve you. Those are the people who deserve your best. But the person who deserves your best most of all, is that reflection you keep analyzing. TC mark

Kirsten Corley

Kirsten is the author of But Before You Leave, a book of poetry about the experiences we struggle to put into words.

Trace the scars life has left you. It will remind you that at one point, you fought for something. You believed.

“You are the only person who gets to decide if you are happy or not—do not put your happiness into the hands of other people. Do not make it contingent on their acceptance of you or their feelings for you. At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter if someone dislikes you or if someone doesn’t want to be with you. All that matters is that you are happy with the person you are becoming. All that matters is that you like yourself, that you are proud of what you are putting out into the world. You are in charge of your joy, of your worth. You get to be your own validation. Please don’t ever forget that.” — Bianca Sparacino

Excerpted from The Strength In Our Scars by Bianca Sparacino.

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