I Like Ordinary Love

Couple's feet standing on dock
Andrew Neel

I like waking up and finding out that this really is all there is.

I like that ‘all there is’ is an experience filled with simplicity and comfort and tenderness.

I like the ordinariness of saying good morning and saying good night and hearing the same familiar breathing pattern next to me every time I fall asleep.

I like saying things that aren’t compelling or clever or funny. I like the sweet relief that comes with saying these boring things that are on my mind instead of trying to say something more impressive. I like having a conversation where I talk about the uninteresting things I need to talk about, instead of the interesting things I think I should talk about. And I like how much I truly feel like myself in these moments.

I like remembering what it felt like to experience the butterfly-inducing, stomach-flipping sensation of something new, and I like comparing it to what I feel now, a feeling that is not thrilling in the typical romantic sense we are used to, nor is it magnificent or breathtaking or awe-inducing.

Instead, I like how quietly electrifying it feels to trust that you are so known by someone else, that the most deep-rooted parts of you are so understood by another breathing thing.

I like realizing that “all there is” is what I want and what I’ve always wanted. I like realizing that “all there is” is what makes me so sweetly happy. TC mark

Kim Quindlen

I'm a staff writer for Thought Catalog. I like comedy and improv. I live in Chicago. My Uber rating is just okay.

This is me letting you go

If there’s one thing we all need to stop doing, it’s waiting around for someone else to show up and change our lives. Just be the person you’ve been waiting for.

At the end of the day, you have two choices in love – one is to accept someone just as they are and the other is to walk away.

We owe it to ourselves to live the greatest life that we’re capable of living, even if that means that we have to be alone for a very long time.

“Everyone could use a book like this at some point in their life.” – Heather

Let go now

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