A Bunch Of Things I’m Really Trying To Let Go Of This Year

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*Comparing my career path to people who are (or are around) my age and convincing myself that if my situation isn’t exactly like theirs, I’ve failed.

*Holding on to bad days after they’re over.

*Scrolling through my newsfeeds in a way that is mindless and frenetic. I understand that, at least for myself and my career, it’s impractical to try and give up social media. But this year, I would like to make it a goal to be very conscious when I’m on Instagram or Twitter or Facebook – that I’m not trying to consume dozens of things in seconds, I’m paying attention, and I’m not looking through my feeds for an unhealthy amount of time.

*Getting upset about something I absolutely will not care about in a year from now.

*Getting upset about something I absolutely will not care about in two days from now.

*Explaining my decisions and choices to people whose opinions I don’t even care about.

*Always saying ‘yes’ to things, even when I know that I really need some rest or a night to myself.

*Not putting an active effort towards quitting as many of my bad habits as possible, even the little ones.

*Convincing myself that I should be doing something productive, even when I’ve specifically set aside this time to relax and give my brain a break.

*Only reflecting on my achievements or things I did well, instead of forcing myself to analyze and work on things that I need to (and would like to) do better.

*Thinking that crying is weak or bad. With each passing year of my twenties, I’ve found that nearly 100% of the time, I feel way better and way healthier after I cry. So I’d like to stop convincing myself that I have to hold everything in when it’s dying to come out. Especially on a crappy day.

*Sleeping next to my phone.

*Not absolutely prioritizing my physical health and my mental health.

*Not being aware enough of my own emotions, and thinking they have more power over me than I do over them. TC mark

Kim Quindlen

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