Here Are People’s Brutally Honest Concerns About Dating Each Zodiac Sign

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Courtney Clayton


(March 21st to April 19th)

  • “That they’ll never be totally comfortable with settling down and that I would have to convince them to commit to a relationship.”
  • “That they love the high of falling in love but that they want nothing to do with you once it’s no longer new and exciting anymore.”
  • “I worry that they have Peter Pan syndrome.”
  • “That they love ‘being in love’ but don’t actually understand what being in love is truly about.”
  • “I once dated a textbook Aries – adventurous, exciting, passionate, thirsty for the world, etc. But I felt like he was never happy to just sometimes stay home and be cozy and comfortable and one-on-one together. I felt like I always had to be ‘thrilling’ for him to want to be with me.”


(April 20th to May 21st)

  • “I think they have an idea of exactly what their relationship is supposed to look like and if you can’t mold yourself into the pre-existing image they have, they will toss you out.”
  • “They’re jealous.”
  • “I have dated a couple Tauruses who were actually incredibly insecure, and it manifested itself in possessiveness and clinginess.”
  • “They want too much of your time. I think it’s good for the emotional health of a relationship to spend a decent amount of time together, but I think it’s also important to spend time away from each other, and in my experience, Tauruses tend to have a very very hard time with that part of things.”
  • “Feeling smothered because they want to blend your lives together 100%.”


(May 22nd to June 21st)

  • “You’ll feel like you’re dating multiple different people at once.”  
  • “They’ll panic if you try to get close to them, so if you want to be with them, you better be prepared to work damn hard right from the beginning.”
  • “They’re easy to fall for but almost impossible to get to know beneath their ‘public persona’ if you will.”
  • “They’re actually really anxious in relationships.”
  • “You have to constantly reassure them that yes, you like them, and no, you don’t think they’re hard to love, and yes, you wanna be with them, and no, you don’t want this to end. It’s exhausting.”


(June 22nd to July 22nd)

  • “That they’ll never be able to let anything go.”
  • “I worry that they would be overly sensitive and that I would have to be walking on egg shells around them 24/7.”
  • “That they hold grudges and don’t forget things even after they claim to forgive you.”
  • “My concern is that they would be constantly paranoid during the relationship because they’re afraid they’re going to get dumped, cheated on, left for someone else, etc.”
  • “In my experience, you spend much of the relationship having to give your reasons to prove to them why you like them.”


(July 23rd to August 22nd)

  • “They treat their relationship like it’s a bullet point on a to-do list.”
  • “That they’re condescending and won’t treat the relationship like a partnership.”
  • “I worry that it will be their way or the highway.”
  • “While dating a Leo a couple of years ago I felt like I was in more of a competition than anything.”
  • “My concern is that it would be very difficult to built trust and companionship because they don’t make it feel like you’re a team.”


(August 23rd to September 22nd)

  • “Any small and offhanded comment you might make without even thinking could send them spiraling.”
  • “That I might mistake their shyness or reservedness as disinterest and miss an opportunity with a great person.”
  • “My biggest worry would be about always worrying about their anxiety and not wanting to contribute to it.”
  • “I would be most scared of their tendency towards perfectionism.”


(September 23rd to October 22nd)

  • “That I would be uncertain about if I meant as much to them as their friends do.”
  • “That they’d be more worried about pleasing everybody than they would about our relationship.”
  • “My big concern is that they wouldn’t ever want to fully commit to something with me because they always want to keep their options open.”
  • “I would be wary of being charmed by them and becoming totally smitten only to realize that they weren’t even thinking about me that seriously.”


(October 23rd to November 22nd)

  • “The stereotypes that come to mind are that Scorpios are jealous and obsessive so I would worry about that.”
  • “That I would fall for them hard since they’re so charming, and then be blindsided if they were to change their mind or just call it off for no reason.”
  • “From my experience, the hardest part was feeling like I did know them well but at the same time didn’t know them well at all? Like they were constantly keeping secrets and we spent more time playing guessing games than having honest conversations.”


(November 23rd to December 21st)

  • “That I wouldn’t be able to get them to give a definite ‘yes’ or ‘no’ about what they want and what they’re looking for.”
  • “The best part about dating a Sagittarius was how upbeat and joyful they were to be around, but the part that has scared me away from Sagittarius’s ever since is that I don’t want to date someone who’s emotionally too far behind me.”
  • “I don’t want to be in a relationship with someone who’s too passive or who doesn’t know how to make a decision and then commit to it.”
  • “They like to be optimistic and hope for the best in things which is great but they don’t want to solve any problems themselves.”


(December 22nd to January 20th)

  • “I’d be afraid of them taking everything way too seriously.”
  • “I feel like Capricorns are very reserved and hard to get to know which would make dating one very difficult.”
  • “I’d want to make sure the relationship was still fun even if they lean towards being more serious most of the time.”
  • “From dating a Capricorn, I know they have a really wonderful silly side, but sometimes it was so hard to pull that out that it got exhausting and there wasn’t enough of a balance between being practical and having fun.”


(January 21st to February 18th)

  • “WALLS. Huge emotional walls.”
  • “The minute a challenge comes up, they want to back out, even if the feelings are established on both sides and have gotten really deep.”
  • “If I dated another Aquarius I would want to make sure they were at least self-aware about their tendency to close themselves off and become detached when things aren’t going smoothly.”
  • “Instead of confronting conflict, they just shut off. That makes a relationship next to impossible.”


(February 19th to March 20th)

  • “They don’t know how to choose things on their own.”
  • “Pisces have great imaginations but sometimes they’re not practical enough.”
  • “Adulthood is hard enough and I would want to make sure I have a partner, but not someone who needs me to help them stop feeling so lost. I understand needing some guidance sometimes, but my fear of Pisces’s is that they want you to give them a path and a purpose instead of creating it themselves.” Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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