(March 21st to April 19th)
Find one new hobby that forces you to actually sit still – reading, painting, pottery, card tricks. Anything that allows your mind to still feel stimulated while also letting you sit back and catch your breath for once.
(April 20th to May 21st)
Learn to enjoy doing things by yourself sometimes. If going out to dinner with friends and playing on an intramural team and participating in a book club are things that make you feel relaxed and happy, that’s fantastic. But don’t be afraid to find one or two things (a show you only watch by yourself, learning a new language, yoga) that make you truly appreciate and look forward to your own company
(May 22nd to June 21st)
Stop putting pressure on yourself to be the life of the party. You don’t have to successfully do this overnight; in fact, try it in baby steps. Go to happy hour with a friend and let your guard down and talk about things you’re struggling with just as much as you talk about good things. If your friend is a true friend, he or she will not speed off in the opposite direction. Chances are, they’ll just relate to you on a whole new level.
(June 22nd to July 22nd)
Start carving out a time in your day and/or week for an activity that allows you to release any pent-up anxieties or frustrations. It can be an exercise-related activity like running, weightlifting, or yoga, but it can also be focused on more of a mental release – journaling, phone calls with loved ones who help you to ‘talk it out,’ poetry, writing lyrics, therapy, a life coach, self-help books, etc.
(July 23rd to August 22nd)
Do nice things anonymously. You’re already a very generous and thoughtful person, but try doing some random acts of kindness without anyone ever knowing it’s you. It can be for someone you know or a total stranger, but try to do at least one helpful and kind thing for someone else every day – it will probably lead you to a truly freeing, genuine, and uplifting experience.
(August 23rd to September 22nd)
Start telling people exactly what you want, and stop apologizing or sugarcoating it. Obviously, you don’t need to walk around demanding the world and acting entitled. But if the barista got your coffee order wrong at the cafe, ask them to fix it. If your coworker made a mistake on a project and your ass is on the line, tell them they need to correct it. Ask for what you want – when you deserve it – and don’t feel bad about it.
(September 23rd to October 22nd)
Commit to things, decisions, and choices – and stick with them. Basically, stop waffling. Instead of trying to weigh every single pro and con and understand every single possibility and outcome and factor of something before making a decision or even just changing your mind – instead just make a choice, go for it, and then reap the benefits or adjust to the mishaps.
(October 23rd to November 22nd)
Limit your time on social media. You don’t have to give it up or quit cold turkey, just start decreasing the amount of time you spend on social networks every day. Sometimes, jealousy can get the best of you, so when you’re giving yourself a break from constantly looking at the lives of your peers and making comparisons to your own, you’ll feel a lot lighter, a lot better, and a lot freer.
(November 23rd to December 21st)
Start making plans, instead of always ‘winging it.’ It’s great that you have an open mind and you can think on your feet, but that doesn’t mean you can’t also plan ahead, save for a rainy day, etc. In fact, when you combine your quick-thinking abilities and your flexibility with some well thought-out plans, you’ll find a lot of success and peace.
(December 22nd to January 20th)
Let yourself see the bright side of things. It doesn’t mean you have to give up your sense of practicality and logic – those are some of your best attributes and you should always try to maintain them. But you’ll be surprised at how much more you can do and how much happier you feel when you allow yourself to consider the possibilities of things you previously would automatically shut down without a second thought.
(January 21st to February 18th)
Be more honest with others – about your own feelings and struggles. You’re an incredibly genuine and honest friend to others; you always give them helpful and straightforward advice and always make an effort to be sincere with people. But when it comes to your own feelings, worries, and anxieties, you hold back. So start small, but start admitting when you need help, when you’re sad, when you want someone’s truthful opinion, etc. You’re allowed to depend on others sometimes, and you should – it will feel like a weight’s been lifted off of you.
(February 19th to March 20th)
Finally do something on your bucket list that you’ve consistently avoided out of fear. You’re a big dreamer, but you have a harder time allowing yourself to actually try things. Sign up for that creative writing class, learn how to surf, or just call up that old friend you’ve drifted away from. Give yourself permission to step outside of your comfort zone.