15 People Share The Biggest Thing About Someone’s Personality That Turns Them Off On The First Date


1. “When you can tell that the person is just nodding their head and barely able to wait until you’re finished speaking before they just start talking about themselves again. It’s so obvious and I can’t stand it and if I can tell they’re not even listening to me, I leave as soon as possible.”

–Mel, 25

2. “Sliding in a humble brag in the middle of a story and thinking that I’m not realizing what they’re doing.”

–Ramon, 29

3. “Being rude to the waiter or Uber driver or anyone else in the service industry. It’s the fastest way to tell if someone is a douchebag.”

–Bernadette, 23

4. “Women who text or can’t stand to look away from their phones while we’re in the middle of a conversation. I think it’s so rude and my thought is always If you really don’t want to be here, go home. I can handle it.

–Kaleb, 28

5. “Talking with food in their mouth. It really is gross.”

–Jackie, 25

6. “Someone who makes fun of other people. It happens more than you’d expect on first dates (probably because she’s nervous and wants to feel more confident) but all it does is make you look mean.”

–Leon, 24

7. “When people use a fake laugh. If the joke isn’t funny, you don’t have to laugh.”

–Allyson, 29

8. “Arrogance.”

–Clara, 27

9. “When you say ‘like’ every three seconds.”

–Pat, 26

10. “Someone who doesn’t know how to make eye contact. I get that it could mean he’s shy, but I’m not a good enough person to have the patience for that and if you can’t look me in the eye I am going to have a really hard time wanting to go on a second date.”

–Ashleigh, 24

11. “Talking about yourself the entire time.”

–Laine, 29

12. “When a person doesn’t think to ask you questions or show in some way that they’re interested in what you have to say or share about yourself.”

–Chase, 30

13. “I can sense (severe) immaturity in a guy within the first six to seven minutes of a date. I’ll usually suck it up and make it all the way through and try to give him the benefit of the doubt, but I’ve never attempted a second date with a guy like that. Been there. Not interested.”

–Kayla, 27

14. “If they try to bring up salary in any way whatsoever, I’m done.”

–Dana, 31

15. “Someone who makes me feel like they don’t want to be there or that they have something better to do.”

–Dominick, 24 Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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