Remember that, no matter how confident and put-together they may seem, everyone you know is just as uncertain and insecure about something as you are.
Stand up for yourself, and don’t feel like you are under any obligation to be polite to anyone who makes you uncomfortable – a particularly important truth for women to remember.
Be cognizant of the fact that material pleasures can absolutely bring instant satisfaction and convenience to your life (and in moderation, it’s perfectly okay) – but that they will never give you feelings of pure joy and genuine contentment.
Pay attention to the smallest of details when you’re out and about – the veins on leaves, the texture of the ground you’re walking on, the title of the book that someone is reading on the subway; it’s a refreshing way to remind yourself that the world is massive, and that you should not to let the little things get to you.
Understand that as you get older, certain friendships that you always thought would last are ultimately going to fade – but it’s only making more room in your life for the friends who will truly, consistently be there for you no matter what.
Allow material things to have less power over you by remembering all the things you wanted so badly in the past, and then how quickly your interest and fascination dwindled after you actually got what you thought you so desperately wanted.
Accept the fact that you will make mistakes, and that you can either wallow in them or learn from them.
If you’re constantly anxious about looking stupid in front of other people, keep in mind that everyone is too busy worrying about how they are looking to spare any time to focus on you and anything embarrassing you do.
Say ‘thank you’ for anything and everything; it’s the perfect way to consistently remind your brain of how many things you have to be grateful for.
When you’re feeling frustrated or insecure about your body, remember that above all else, it is just a temporary vessel for your mind and your soul.
Before something sets you off, pause, and think about whether or not you’ll still be upset about it in two days; if you won’t, let yourself feel the anger for five seconds and then let it go.
Remember that the people who treat you poorly are really fighting something that they hate within themselves – and that the people who are the most content with themselves never feel any need to put others down.
Give yourself permission to actively participate in the act of relaxing, instead feeling like you should also be checking work emails and doing a million other things while you’re supposed to be watching a movie or taking a nice walk.
Constantly remind yourself that comparing yourself to others is a waste of time.
If this is difficult for you, think of all the people you compared yourself to five years ago, and whether or not they have any significance in your life whatsoever today.
Write down the things that you need to do and organize it into some kind of list – because there will always be something that popped up in your mind that you now forget and are currently driving yourself crazy trying to remember.
Keep scents in your living space and work space that make you feel relaxed, happy, and right at home.
Take social media with a grain of salt, always.
Acknowledge that your feelings are valid, but that when things get overwhelming, it helps to pull back and look objectively for what the source of your unhappiness or stress or sadness might possibly be.
Acknowledge that you are in no way obligated to spend any of your free time around people who hurt you, frustrate you, or make you feel less than; there are too many people out there wanting to spread love and joy for you to waste time with people who suck the happiness out of your life.
Find activities to do throughout the day that stimulate your brain – crossword puzzles, sudoku, 10-minute work breaks where you catch up on the news or read an interesting article, etc.
Get over the fact that saying sorry is not supposed to feel good; it’ll make it a lot easier for you to apologize when you really don’t want to but you know you need to.
Say kind things to people, even those you don’t know that well; it will make you feel good, too.
Remember that spreading joy to others doesn’t take joy away from you – joy only multiplies when it is shared between people.
Don’t apologize or “explain yourself” when it comes to the things that make you happy; just do them, it’s your life.