25 Simple Truths About Being In Your Twenties You Need To Accept Right Now If You Want To Be Happy


1. There’s always going to be someone more successful than you, and spending any of your time worrying about it is a waste of mental energy that you could be putting to good use in some other area of your life.

2. Some of your friendships are going to fizzle out, and some of them will be with the people you never, ever thought you’d lose touch with. It can be a sad and depressing experience to go through, but it also helps you understand what a strong friendship in adulthood truly requires.

3. You’re going to go to a lot of engagement parties and a lot of weddings and sometimes it will make you incredibly happy and sometimes it will exhaust you and either reaction is totally normal.

4. Every single person you know is going to follow a different timeline for the way that they ‘do’ their twenties. No way is the right way, as long as you’re refusing to settle for mediocrity.

5. Unless you’re a wine expert, a $22 bottle of wine will not taste any better to you than one that costs $8.

6. Sometimes you will wake up and feel like you are no further in life right now than you were when you were eighteen. Everybody has mornings like this, it’s okay. You’re okay.

7. It’s important to remain humble, but it’s also important that you don’t trivialize your achievements. A lot of us start dealing with impostor syndrome at this age – a phenomenon in which we convince ourselves that we’re not as intelligent or talented as people think, and that at some point someone will expose us as a fraud. Be aware of these types of toxic thoughts and don’t allow them to suffocate your joy and your creativity.

8. It’s easy to make your life look glamorous online. But everyone is dealing with something, no matter how perfect their situation looks from the outside.

9. If you’re in a relationship, everyone is going to ask you when you’re getting married. If you’re single, everyone’s going to ask you why you haven’t found anyone yet. You’re not required to explain yourself in either situation. Just compliment them on their outfit and go grab another beer.

10. You’ll probably never outgrow your desire to go see Pixar movies, and you shouldn’t have to. They’re fantastic.

11. It’s okay (and normal and necessary) that you don’t know everything yet. The people who act like they do are the ones that no one wants to be around anyway.

12. The less you have, the happier you’ll be.

13. You will go through phases where you feel like you’ve honestly forgotten how to be around other people. This is totally normal. It’s not a meltdown. It’s called being an adult and realizing that sometimes life is exhausting.

14. Not everyone’s going to like you. And trying to figure out why will just drive you crazy.

15. Hangovers last for up to two days now. No one is immune. Drink accordingly.

16. There will be moments where you’re as tough as they come and other moments where you break into sobs while you’re watching a commercial about gum. This is because our emotions don’t always make sense to us. But that doesn’t mean they’re not valid.

17. Fear Of Missing Out can be intense at first, but it subsides pretty quickly. If you really want to stay in, just stay in. You’ll be happier making a solid decision and sticking to it than you will with teetering back and forth and then ultimately just going out because you can’t make up your mind.

18. The more you surround yourself with good people, the less you’ll care about what other people think. You’ll still care, but you’ll care less.

19. You’re going to start feeling really, really old around teenagers. And that’s a good thing.

20. Being in a relationship does not have to mean the end of your independence. You can certainly have both.

21. A lot of times, people don’t need you to solve their problems or to give advice or to fix everything. They just need you to listen to them.

22. It’s okay to forgive someone who has hurt you but to also decide you can no longer keep them in your life. That doesn’t make you a bad person. Sometimes the best thing we can do is to forgive, and then let go.

23. Reading will improve your life (and expand your mind) tremendously. And the more you do it, the easier it gets.

24. Sometimes your life will feel like one big face plant. That’s okay. Just embrace the suck.

25. Being kind to everyone you meet will only make your life better. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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