1. “Right now I’m trying to quit the habit of saying ‘sorry’ all the time. It’s so silly that so many of us feel like we need to do this. When a woman walks into a room and is so confident and doesn’t apologize for being clever/smart/the boss/whatever she is, I respect that so much. I want to be that woman.”

-Carey, 29

2. “Women who know how to do practical stuff – changing their oil, fixing their tire pressure, sewing, putting together shit from IKEA, jump starting a car, etc. I don’t want to have to rely on someone else for that stuff, especially a guy. I’m pretty jealous of women who just seem to know how to do anything and everything.”

-Ariel, 24

3. “I clam up in social situations with new people. When I’m with my friends I’m a pretty comfortable, fun person. But with new people my brain freezes and it’s like I can think of nothing interesting to say. But there’s always that one woman at the party who knows everybody and seems really comfortable and can talk to just about anyone. I wish I had that skill.”

-Andrea, 27

4. “Most of my best friends from college know what they want to do with their lives and they’re so sure about their life path. I wish I had that. But I have no confidence in terms of what I want to do for a living. So I’m usually thinking about them while I’m at my boring admin job that’s leading nowhere.”

-Chelsea, 22

5. “A woman who’s really beautiful but doesn’t feel the need to remind everyone else about how attractive she is every three seconds. I had a couple friends in school who just HAD to tell you every time a guy hit on them and it came off as very obnoxious. I really admire women who are confident in their own skin but don’t have to tell everyone how gorgeous they are every minute of every day.”

-Kate, 25

6. “I really do wanna get in shape but I have no willpower and I’m just exhausted constantly. Every time I’m driving to work and I see a woman who’s jogging super early in the morning, I always wish it was me and that I had that diligence. But I hate exercising so it’s kind of a catch 22.”

-Claire, 28

7. “That one friend you have who’s always so gracious and sweet. Always sending thank-you notes, always giving you a nice card or gift on your birthday, always remembering the names of everybody she meets. Making everyone feel welcomed and cared about. I’m the worst at that stuff.”

-Maria, 30

8. “I have the worst sense of style. I love women who just freaking know how to put stuff together. I’m so jealous and wish I knew how to make my style look so effortless and chic.”

-Laurie, 29

9. “I’m gonna go with a shallow answer and say girls with long, thick hair. My hair is thin and whispy. Anytime I’m near someone with super long hair, I just stare at it and wish mine could be like that.”

-Mary Ellen, 21

10. “Women who are good at public speaking. I have to do it a lot in my job and I’m trying to get better at it. I’m always thinking about the best female public speakers I’ve seen every time I have to give a presentation.”

-Brandi, 28

11. “I have a lot of friends who do all sorts of cool things outside work. Crossfit, running clubs, pottery classes, blogging, photography. But I haven’t found my ‘thing’ yet. I feel like all I do is go to work and then come home and eat dinner and watch tv. So I’m really jealous of girls who have such cool lives going on outside of their job.”

-Mel, 24

12. “Curves. I have absolutely none.”

-Britt, 26

13. “My best friend has this beautiful, chestnut-brown hair color with little highlights of red in it that are actually NATURAL. It’s so frustrating. I love her to death but I tell her all the time that I want to steal her hair. Especially because I have to regularly spend money to get mine highlighted since the natural color is meh.”

-Mary, 21

14. “Women who can dance. Half the time I go out to clubs, I don’t even dance because I’m too busy watching other women on the dance floor and wishing I could be them.”

-Brie, 23

15. “Pretty much any woman who knows how to say ‘no’ to things she shouldn’t have to do (extra work shifts, weird requests you get as a bridesmaid, things she’s not comfortable doing at her job) without feeling bad about it is my role model.”

-Analise, 27

16. “A woman who knows exactly what she’s looking for in a partner, and will not lower her standards for anyone just so she can be in a relationship. (As long as she’s being practical and not snobbish or anything.)”

-Sam, 30

17. “Women who are confident, but not arrogant, about their talents. I love Tina Fey because although she’s a comedian it can apply to all sorts of professions and types of women. She’s confident about her capabilities and she can command a room, but she is equally humble and seems really down-to-earth. My passions lean towards digital marketing, but I always look to her as an example of how to conduct myself in my professional life.”

-Robyn, 26