I have had a few experiences with breakups. During these times, I have read countless articles and have cried to girlfriends expressing my confusion as to why someone’s dusty ass son did not want me anymore.
Some of the advice I have received seemed too focused on creating a false sense of wellbeing for superficial reasons, like getting your ex to want you again or making it appear as if you are living a better life than your ex. If you are reading this simply for the reasons outlined above, it makes no sense for you to read any further. Don’t get me wrong, the tips I am about to give you may have your ex crawling back or make you appear to be having a better life than they do. Still, the intention of this article is for you to become a better you, to find yourself again, and to bounce back after a nasty breakup.
1. Focus on yourself.
Try to rediscover who you were before the breakup. When we are in a relationship, we often become so in sync with our partners that we continually develop some of their traits and their interests. You must go out and do the things that are uniquely you; for example, if you liked hiking, but you hiked less because your partner did not want to walk, now would be the time for you to get out and go hiking.
Avoid checking your ex’s social media; checking on your ex will throw you into a dark hole of emotional despair, and that is not something you deserve right now. Focus on yourself by being gentle with yourself as much as possible.
2. Work up a sweat.
According to the internet, it seems getting in shape is the answer to every problem these days. I am not going to tell you to get in shape and to change your body; instead, I am going to tell you to get active but accept your body the way it is. Getting active will boost your endorphins and put you in a better mood; you will indeed look better, but that should not be your primary goal. Getting involved can be the gym or even taking a dancehall class. I highly recommend dance classes. You will feel happier, meet new people, and learn a new skill while looking better. If it was a bad breakup and you have pent-up aggression, you might want to try out kickboxing or MMA fighting classes.
3. Get back out there and start dating again.
Breakups can inflict a massive blow to self-confidence and self-esteem, and you may not feel like putting yourself out there again. Try not to be shackled by your pain or by the fear of rejection.
Take your time to deal with past pain or resentments you may have, but do not wait too long to start dating again.
4. Get creative.
Breakups are a massive force of creative inspiration, some of the most marvelous creative pieces ever to grace human existence. Turn your pain into passion and get your creative juices flowing. You do not have to be a professional artist to create meaningful art, and who knows, you may also discover that you have a hidden talent you never knew existed.
5. Try therapy.
It is imperative to seek professional help when going through a breakup. It does not matter whether the relationship lasted 10 years or 1o days. Therapy can help you rebuild your self-confidence and self-esteem and deal with guilt and shame.
It will help you react to the situation and act as a guide on the best ways to rediscover your true self.