This Is The Top Relationship Deal Breaker For Each Birth Order



Passive aggression, indecisiveness, and irresponsibility.

An oldest child seeks a true partner. They want someone who’s got their back, who they can completely trust and depend on, and who they in turn can be the same for. Honest communication (ie: not beating around the bush, saying what you mean when you say it) is key in order to have a successful relationship with an oldest child. Once an oldest child is out of their “just having fun!!” faze, there’s no looking back. They won’t stay around for someone wishy-washy or someone who’s careless in life or in love. They want someone who is as sure as they are about the relationship, the future, and more. Any sign of the possibility of immaturity and flightiness and they’ll be out the door.

Somewhere In The Middle

Lack of empathy, secrecy, and negativity. 

Middle children are used to being the glue that holds everyone together. They’re very in tune with their emotions and handling the emotions of others. So it makes perfect sense that the one thing a middle child indisputably needs is the knowledge that their feelings are understood and are respected. Making a middle child feel like their feelings aren’t being listened to and supported or considered worth it is the quickest way to make them pull away from you. Middle children seek out empathy, they seek out like-minded individuals who want to make them feel seen, feel heard, and feel validated. If someone enters a relationship with a middle child and withholds information, plays games, or acts like feelings are whatever in any way, shape, or form? They might as well consider themselves single.


Laziness, lack of ambition, and being too realistic. 

Nothing gets a youngest child going ask much as a new experience, or a new challenge, or a new prospect that could potentially enhance their life. So likewise, their partner needs to be equally as down-for-whatever. If they encounter someone who’s way more content to squash their big picture dreams due to things like reality or practicality? They won’t even stick around long enough to hear their reasoning as to why. A youngest child is going to need someone with as much of an urge to leap regardless of looking beforehand. Wanting to just sit around doing the “same old same old” or staying with both feet planted firmly on the ground because you’re too scared to jump isn’t something a youngest child is going to want to deal with. It’s actually the antithesis of who they are, and something they will definitely run from.


Insensitivity, refusal to open up, and being cold.

Twins crave connection, they want and need a very specific kind of closeness that is honestly hard to find. But without it, their relationships won’t be successful. They need a partner who is an expert at communication, and wants to know every part of what makes them them. If a twin senses walls, aloofness, or ambivalence? They’re never going to connect with that person in a way that will end in something serious. Coldness and walls are not something a twin sees and thinks, “That seems like a fun challenge!” It literally pushes them in the opposite direction. If you cut off communication and connectivity with a twin, your relationship will be over before it even begins.

Only Child

Being uninspiring, clinginess, and boredom. 

Only children require a lot of contradiction in order to have a successful relationship. They want attention, but need their space. They want inspiration, but want to be the star. They love intrigue, but also need to FEEL intriguing. But if you’re not willing to fit their mold, ebb where they flow, bend where they balk? An only child simply won’t make room for you. Frankly, they won’t see the point in having you in their life if you don’t add something to it. The key to succeeding in a relationship with an only child is figuring out how to be the perfect harmony to their melody. If you’re not able to sync up with their life, they just won’t make space for you – as harsh as that may be. An only child is without question a challenge, and they’re a challenge not many people can take on so. Proceed with caution. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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