Being On Your Own Is Better Than Being Underappreciated (So Stop Settling)

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Twenty20 / @veronicoleman

You love being alone. Not something you hear too often from a 20-something’s mouth, but it’s the truth.

You enjoy it, you refer to yourself as an extroverted introvert because truthfully you’re mostly at peace when you’re in the company of yourself, but can be a social butterfly when you need to be.

When it comes to dating, you will only date someone if you see a future there. You are not in the business of wasting your time on something you know isn’t right for you.

Life is too short, there are too many things you want to accomplish, too many places you want to visit. Truthfully, if you enjoy being with someone more than being in your own little world, that’s a clear indication that you are in something natural and right.

If anything, you’ve learned that you should never settle. Don’t do it. Don’t settle with a guy who treats you like you’re an option, one of many other options to chose from. Don’t settle with a guy who can’t remember the little, but important things that make you who you are.

Don’t settle with a guy who you aren’t excited to see, who you’re just going through the motions with. Don’t settle with a guy who doesn’t make an effort to see what makes your eyes light up, what you’re passionate about, and what makes you laugh. If you aren’t laughing together, what’s the point?

I promise you, being on your own for a while is a greater alternative to feeling under appreciated in a relationship that isn’t making you smile before you go to sleep at night. EVEN when all of your friends are getting engaged, married and having children,  try and remember that your time will come.

Just because it’s not happening for you right at this moment, doesn’t mean it never will.

Like everything, realizing this is easier said than done, I understand. There will be times when you just want to curl up and listen to the saddest Taylor Swift songs and tell yourself you won’t ever find your other half.

But after all the horrendous dates and cringe-worthy set ups, you’ll eventually see that they were simply making you stronger. Teaching you more and more about yourself, bringing out sides of you that you didn’t even realize were there.

It’s easy to feel discouraged when your world is feeling small and you feel like no one will ever connect with you or understand you. But, rest assured many others feel the same way you do.

No one is ever truly alone in their thoughts. The world is a huge place and there is magic there for those who are willing to look.

So go see it! Go on adventures with your best girlfriends, visit the places you’ve wanted to go since you were little, try new foods, and spend hours in bookstores, reading books you wouldn’t normally pick out yourself. In doing what you love, in chasing your passions- you’ll find that love has a funny way of creeping up on you while you’re busy living your life. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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