5 Things We Need To Stop Focusing Our Energy On

Orange Is The New Black
Orange Is The New Black

1. Gossiping and talking negatively about others.

Spending time talking about other people is a waste of time. Unless your complimenting them on their great new top or awesome hair cut, why throw away time chitchatting negatively about others. Whether it’s someone you know or a random stranger, blathering about others does no good. Instead of putting someone down or analyzing their behaviors, why not take the time to self-reflect and focus on positive things in your own life as well as areas of improvement.

2. Weight.

This is a tough area, especially for females.I know it is something I spend way too much time focusing on and I have a lot of friends that do the same. In all honesty though, all the time spent stressing over a number on the scale or a certain area of your body is doing no good. Learn to love what you look like. And if you don’t, stop stressing and find healthy ways to change it. There are a ton of exercise options depending on what you like, and a little cardio or yoga helps you not only physically but mentally as well.

3. Our phones.

This is another area I am guilty of focusing wayyyy too much energy on. Our world is one that is incredibly technology centered. While there are some positives to this, most people spend way too much times on their phones instead of talking face to face. Or frankly instead of doing all sorts of other productive things, whether it is reading a book, cleaning, or working. It is easy to waste tons of time on apps like Candy Crush and Snapchat. It’s a lot easier (and safer) to send a text to someone rather than to call them or say something in person. Honestly though, your I-phone doesn’t give a shit about you. It has no feelings and it’s not going to be there for you when something goes wrong. That’s what friends and family are for. So stop staring at your phone so much and go hang out with a living breathing person! Rant over.

4. What others think of us.

This one doesn’t really need an explanation. Focus on thinking highly of yourself. Love yourself. It doesn’t matter what another person thinks of you. We certainly cannot please everyone and if you waste your time trying you’re only going to end up disappointed and exhausted. Concentrate on being the best version of yourself you can be. After all, you are the one that has to live with yourself 24/7.

5. Worrying.

Worry does absolutely no good. It doesn’t change anything at all. It is like praying for something not to happen even though you have no control over it. Things work out a certain way for a reason, even if it’s not the way we envisioned them turning out. No sense in worrying, just embrace all the curveballs thrown your way and learn from them. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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