Why It's Hard To Love Yourself If You're An Empath

Why It’s Hard To Love Yourself If You’re An Empath

Empathy is an interesting gift to have.

Being an empath means you are highly sensitive and emotional and can sometimes confuse others’ emotions as your own. Sure, that’s good when you need to be empathetic and sympathetic. But what happens if feeling all the feels takes over your life?

If you’re an empath…

You care a lot about everyone and everything.

You give so much of yourself to other people.

You’re intuitive and sensitive to others’ feelings.

You love hard.

But…what about you? 

Are you taking care of yourself? Are you in tune with your own feelings? What are you actually doing with the love you want to give? Are you leaving anything for yourself?

You have so much love to give and you’re giving it to people who don’t deserve it or you. You’re giving your love to manipulative people or people who aren’t in touch with their emotions and so they suck all of yours out of you.

People gravitate towards you – you have this magnetic pull. It’s like they know you’ll put them first and you’ll be more than willing to help them with their problems. You put all of your energy into the reactions and feelings of others, rather than who you are and what your truth is.

If you’re an empath, you have a hard time loving yourself. 

Believe me, I know how to hard it is to put yourself first, especially as an empath. I have so much love to give and I just want someone to accept me, appreciate me, and respect me and my love. So far, no one has proven themselves worthy and that’s okay! That just means I need to keep that love for myself.

If you’re an empath, you need to remember: self-love is not selfish. 

Do what makes you feel good, whatever it is. Maybe that’s self care – taking a bath, putting on a face mask, drinking water. Maybe that’s starting a new hobby to occupy your mind – yoga, painting, knitting, kickboxing, photography. Maybe that’s meditating or creating a vision board. Maybe that’s just forgiving yourself or giving yourself a break every once in a while.

Stop putting so much effort into those who don’t appreciate you. Put that energy into appreciating yourself for once. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

About the author

Kelly Peacock

Brooklyn-based poet, writer, avid coffee drinker, and music lover.