1. Love yourself
Easier said than done, I know. We all struggle and have bad days when we would do anything to change our appearance and erase all of our internal flaws. But once you truly, sincerely love who you are, inside and out, then you will be at peace with everything and everyone around you. People’s judgements and criticisms will bounce right off of you. You won’t need anyone’s approval. You won’t be constantly apologizing for your quirks and traits. Once you learn how to be content with yourself, you will live in peace.
2. Understand your self-worth and never compromise
So many people struggle with their self-worth and what they truly deserve. We accept the love that we think we deserve, but that doesn’t mean it’s actually ever good enough for us. We compromise our wants and needs and desires off-handedly, when in fact, we should be fiercely guarding those components in our life. Yes, in every sort of relationship, some compromise is going to be involved. But you should never, ever give up who you are, your individual self, and what deep down you know you deserve for someone else. If someone isn’t fulfilling your wants and needs to keep you happy, even if you are head over heels in love with that person, they aren’t right for you. In order to be the best version of yourself, you must recognize your self-worth, your value, and cater to it.
3. Appreciate what you have
This is imperative. You must be able to look around you and recognize all the good that you have in your life. We spend so much time mulling over the bad stuff – the stuff that we want but always seems to be out of our reach – that we completely disregard what we do have. This was a regular exercise my therapist made me do because it always seemed like I was complaining to her about something or other. If I complained about how I was getting shitty pay at my job, she would make me realize that I should be thankful I even have a job. When I whined that I was still living at home, she would tell me how lucky I was to even have a home to live in until I could stand on my own two feet. She always humbled me and made me aware that things could be much, much worse, and even if everything around me seems to be falling apart, there are always things I should appreciate. We need to stop constantly focusing on the things we don’t have and the things we want, and see what we do have.
4. Learn to let things go
Holding on to old problems, relationships, and feelings only does damage to yourself. By refusing to let go of the past or of things that hurt you in the past, you are never able to move on and see the positive future ahead. Harboring the past is toxic. Holding onto guilt, resentment, shame, or any other negative emotion without having any way to change it will drive you insane and you will never live happily. You must learn to accept your past and let go in order to be a better person and live a better life.
5. Take care of yourself
Physically, mentally, emotionally. It’s impossible to feel your best if you aren’t taking the time to cater to your personal needs. Sometimes if I’m really feeling down and like I’m stuck in a rut, I evaluate my recent lifestyle choices. I usually find that I’ve been drinking too much, barely exercising, not sleeping enough, and stuffing down problems that I should be opening up about. Usually when we’re feeling a little bit off, we’re not confronting something that we should be. So it is always necessary to make changes in our life to alter our physical and mental state for the better.