Please, Once And For All, Choose Yourself

Anete Lusina
Anete Lusina

You’ve gone too far, given almost half of your life trying to fill someone else’s void, offered so much just to prove you’re being true, been broken too long and in the end, lost more than you’ve gained.

Why don’t you take this day, this moment, this very second to think of no one else but yourself? Because, damn, you are so worth it!

Enough of the games you’ve been playing over and over again, aren’t you getting tired of them? Your heart has been used and shattered by the same person, yet you’re still there with a tight grip on a very thin thread without even realizing that you’re the only one holding on.

Stop, please. It’s not healthy anymore.

Give yourself some respect and walk away; you cannot save people. Do yourself a favor and save your heart.

Leave because you need to and you have to. There’s plenty of reasons for you to pack up your things and walk through that door, you just need to open your eyes and see for yourself.

If he doesn’t treat you the way you should be and the way you deserve, if he only takes and never gives, if he’s belittled you, if he’s used you for his own gratification, if he’s neglected you instead of fighting for you—let him go. Stop romanticizing those mishaps and start living in the reality that it’s not going to work out, not now and not ever.

Just because you don’t want to hurt him or see him broken doesn’t mean you have to abandon yourself. You are far better than that.

You have been born to become someone unique and strong. Don’t let that be taken away from you. You’re blessed with such good family members and friends; don’t you dare let them go. You have great plans for your future, dreams to chase, and goals to achieve; don’t let them fade away just like that.

Your world doesn’t revolve around one person and your life won’t end if you choose to stand for yourself and quit.

Go ahead, now! Decide for your freedom, for your will, for your worth. You might lose something, but this time it’s for your own good. And soon you’ll notice that you can breathe easier; the heaviness has been removed from your lungs.

You’re going to have a fresh start, remove all the toxins of the past and replace them with something new, something you’ll treasure and always be grateful for. Wipe away the tears and put on your realest smile. Do the things you’ve been wanting to do, but never had the chance to because someone or something’s holding you back.

Be better, not for someone, not for anyone, but for yourself.

Let time do its magic to heal you, to put back all the pieces you’ve lost and to bring out the very essence of you.

Choose to be happy.
Choose to be free.
Choose to stand up.
Choose to rise above.

You won’t regret it, I swear. You’ll even thank yourself for letting your mind work rather than listening to the whispers of your deceptive emotions and feelings. Someday, you will look back and might even realize that you’ve escaped from the shackles of the person who ruined you and changed you. It may not be the best relationship you had, but it taught you how to be brave, how to come out strong, how not to give your trust easily, how to say no without feeling guilty and how to love yourself even more.

So please, once and for all, choose yourself. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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