How To Get Someone To Adore You

Atikh Bana

You get a lot of people who just want to be adored, just want to be loved, to be more attractive, I’m going to share with you what has helped me through my years. Because let’s face it, everybody wants to be adored, loved, appreciated, made to be felt special. And anybody who says that they don’t want that, then they’re probably not human. I’m going to share with you what I learned through my life and how I’ve grown to attract someone who adores you.

Do nothing.

Because nothing is sexier than authenticity. In fact you get people that say they were so attracted to a person because they’re not doing anything and it’s like they can just sit there and stare at them because they’re not trying so hard to impress, they’re not trying so hard to fit in, they just are and we gravitate towards people who don’t try so hard. I remember a few years ago when I used to go to clubs with friends and spend a lot of time thinking about what to wear, what cologne to wear, what to say if I spoke to new people there. I was basically trying too hard to “fit” in, which is all really a load of nonsense anyway. So when I realise that in order to get someone to adore, you’ve got to be yourself and learn how to adore yourself first and foremost. If you don’t adore yourself then it’s going to be difficult, but once you accept yourself you’re authentic and that shows me that if you can accept yourself then you can also accept me.

Show me what you’ve got.

Through my life with dating and relationships, and even through friends of mine talking about their relationships saying their partner is always busy or they’re always busy. We sometimes say that we want our partner to give us all the attention, but that’s not really what we want which is what I’ve realized. To attract someone who adores you, it’s what I call “Men and women of purpose”. There’s a reason why a lot of women love a guy in uniform because it shows that this guy is willing to sweat for them, to do whatever it takes to bring the mangos and grapes home. We are drawn to people who are passionate

Through my life with dating and relationships, and even through friends of mine talking about their relationships saying their partner is always busy or they’re always busy. We sometimes say that we want our partner to give us all the attention, but that’s not really what we want which is what I’ve realized. To attract someone who adores you, it’s what I call “Men and women of purpose”. There’s a reason why a lot of women love a guy in uniform because it shows that this guy is willing to sweat for them, to do whatever it takes to bring the mangos and grapes home. We are drawn to people who are passionate about what they want to do in life, who have a clear focus. To get someone to adore you, you have to show how passionate you are about whatever it is you are here to do here on planet earth. I said a while back on my blog that “You find the one you love by doing what you love”. Do you ever notice that the more you search, the more you can’t find, but once you’re in your life purpose just living and breathing then it all comes? Why does this happen? It’s because your primary focus is to work on yourself in becoming the best version you can be. People pick up on that and will love you even more for it because it goes to show how dedicated you are to loving what you know you came here to live.

Lose everything.

So if you lose everything then what am I talking about? Ladies try this, wear no make up for one week, now if that guy is still ringing your phone, then he really does adore after all. So lose everything you don’t have to tell people how much money you make, how famous you are, where you work, etc. With me along the years, people appreciated me all the time, mostly in the street when starting up a conversation with strangers, but I always say ‘I’m too busy sorry’, even though I wasn’t at times. When you lose everything, even this superficial persona that you’ve created it allows someone to see the real you underneath it al, underneath the makeup, this position, this job, this title, this car, this apartment. If people can see you in your true element it resonates with them, the shoe fits and means you’ve just scored. That’s how to attract someone who adores you, when you lose everything yet they still want you.

Undress your mind.

Show people the inner working of your mind because we’re living in a world which is very materialistic, rightly so because it is a material world but also there is another spiritual side. So you’ve got to realise this, you see, this body that we have is a beautiful body, it’s a beautiful vehicle, ok you’ve got one but this body is going to change, it changes as we go through life, even how you look now is not going to be how you look in twenty years, well then again, you may actually look young. So what we’re going to see is that beauty is going to fade away, but what doesn’t fade away is the essence, so when you undress someone’s mind show them the inner workings of your mind, yes show your booty if you want because it’s beautiful, show how you go to the gym everyday and your beautiful muscles, yes that’s great but at the same time that isn’t enough to get someone to really adore you, that’s because there’s always someone else with another booty, there’s someone else that goes to the gym. So you’ve got to show people once again the inner workings of your mind to say actually yes, I have a beautiful body, but at the same time, I’m a lot more than just a pretty face. It’s like when I’m at work or at a bar, people are engaged with personality, not with the way I look. So don’t be afraid to show people how your mind works because it’s so very important.

Be vulnerable with them.

Then if they still stay then it means they really do adore you. A lot of us are afraid to be vulnerable in this society, as nobody wants to say ‘actually, I’m not perfect’. I’m definitely not perfect, we’re all on the same boat, just figuring it all out. And that is so attractive and how to attract someone who adores you. When you say you’re not perfect and you’re still working on yourself we love that, because it allows us also to let go. On the other hand if you have someone who says that they’re all so perfect, have no flaws, they never make mistakes, then it’s difficult to adore them in the same way because we naturally love to check someone who is working on themselves, who has been a jackass one day and then is a saint the next day. So I’ve just found out that the more vulnerable that you can be with someone, talk to people about what you did as a young child, the more you open up to someone then the more that they adore you. If you close yourself off to people then they close themselves off to you. Never be afraid to be vulnerable.

A lot of people go by looks.

When we talk of attraction what we need to realise is this. If you want someone to really adore you, well you’ve only got to do one thing and that is to make them feel special, make them feel loved, make people feel like they are somebody. We adore people who make us feel something so show people how special they are, then they will adore you, often times we don’t do that, it’s always about us, we forget small gifts, even just a thank you could do, how it can brighten up someone’s day. We are drawn to kind people, we are drawn to giving people, if you are stingy then well, nobody has got time for that! stinginess means that you are closed as opposed to open and giving. So to attract someone who adores you, ask yourself how are you making them feel special today, are you taking the time out of your busy schedule to be with them? Are you sending them a message?

Trust people.

It’s hard to trust people, but the bird that gets released from the cage will fly away, if it comes back to the cage, then it really does adore you after all. A lot of us even in relationships and what not know we’ve got to keep this bird inside the cage because we know that we’re so insecure and that we’re trying to control this person, we’re trying to own them, and actually feel that we can own another human being. So we know that if they get an opportunity to fly away then they’re definitely not coming back. But to attract someone who adores you, then let them fly away and they will love you even more for it. Why? Because you’ve shown them the power of freedom as oppose to locking them inside a cage, and that’s why so many what I call ‘Toxic’ relationships end in disaster, as it’s like “you don’t look at this person, only down on the floor instead”. Yes, it’s like punishment. You want to be with someone who gives you that power of freedom to say “Go wherever you want, we adore people who do that. We even crave people even more who allow us to be ourselves without apologizing for it.

Value people.

A lot of the times we don’t value people, we take people for granted and I’ve done this in the past. But if you want someone to really adore you then stop taking people for granted. Jus think that this person may not always be here and the more you show people how much they’re valued and cared for, then people just naturally gravitate towards you. And that’s when you start becoming compliant, when you stop watering the flower and now it withers, and don’t worry because we’re growing it right now. So show them how much they are valued, how much they are needed, how much they help you become a greater version of yourself.

Start loving yourself more.

Love yourself one hundred percent first and foremost, we often think that there is something we care to do in order to get someone to adore us even more, well no. We have to adore ourselves whole heartedly first and a very simple way to do this is to just don’t worry if people adore you or not. To get someone to adore you you’ve got to be at one with yourself. Ask yourself if you’re really happy in life, because if you are then we love happy people and gravitate towards them. Or am I all about drama right now? Well, that means that you are gong to push people out of your life. Am I here living my purpose? Am I here helping make the world a better place? Then you’re going to attract more people.

So just remind yourself to adore yourself and everything else will fall into place. Then you will feel so good to be alive! TC mark

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