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Don’t Be The Girl Who Settles For An Almost Relationship

If you love him, don’t be his friend. Don’t become the girl he runs to when he needs a shoulder to cry on. Don’t be the girl who awkwardly sits next to him at parties. Don’t be the girl who settles for an “almost” relationship.

Don’t become the girl that I was.

I’ve been in your shoes, standing exactly where your feet are, breathing the exact same air you are.

I’ve been the girl who would jump at any opportunity to just linger in his presence. I’ve been the girl who would say just about anything to get him to notice me. I’ve been the girl who would accept any form of relationship he was willing to offer. I’ve been the girl who would imagine a life with a guy, that at the end of the day, wouldn’t think twice about me. I’ve been the girl who settled.

But you don’t have to be.

You don’t have to wait by your phone for a text. You don’t have to cancel on dinner plans with people who love and care about you. You don’t have to carve out time for someone who wouldn’t hold your hand in public. You don’t have to plan out words to say to a person that wouldn’t want to hear them in the first place.

Listen, sweet girl, you don’t have to love a man that will never love you. You don’t have to stay in a place that will never give your soul what it needs, what it craves. You don’t have to wait for a life that will never happen. You are worthy of the love that happens in romantic novels. You are worthy of the life fairytales are made of. You can regain the power that your love holds, so that the right guy will be compelled to want you, and only you. You can regain the power your life holds, so that you end up exactly where you desire. You can do anything, you can be anything, if and only if, you do not allow yourself to settle.

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