It hurts because you thought you’d be there for them, too, but you can’t.
If you like someone, ask them out. It’s not a gender thing, or an empowerment thing, it’s not playing games or trying to establish some sort of relationship pecking order.
It doesn’t matter why you are single.
Once you’re logged on, you’re just a few keystrokes away from verbalizing those thoughts. Online. Where nothing is ever truly lost and every miserable late-night outpouring of grief can be screen-grabbed, or resurrected with the Wayback Machine.
Regardless whether we like to or not, when we do art, we put ourselves out there.