1. He doesn’t care about you.
It’s easy to show someone you care. Text them first, ask them about what’s been happening in their life, be open about how you feel about them. He doesn’t respond to 90% of your text messages, then tells you that he’s “just a jerk and doesn’t feel like talking to people sometimes”. If the person you’re interested in isn’t showing you that they care, chances are they don’t.
2. He only wants you when he’s lonely.
He goes days or weeks without contacting you, and then he texts you at 11pm wanting to know if you can come over.
3. He never told his friends about you.
He invites you over only when his roommate isn’t home, and never goes to your place. He doesn’t ask to hang out and do “normal friend” things, like play video games with him and his friends. He also doesn’t have long conversations with you in public places.
4. He plays mind games.
He acts interested one day, but then ignores you the next. Playing hard to get is one thing, but playing hot and cold for over a year is just ridiculous. It causes unnecessary drama, and life is stressful enough without having to play guessing games about whether or not someone is actually interested in you.
5. He makes you question whether or not you’re truly wanted.
Sometimes guys act like they’re interested in you simply because they’re attracted to you physically. However, this does not mean that they are interested in getting to know you outside of the bedroom. It’s important to figure out the difference.
6. The good days do not make up for the bad ones.
I can’t stress this enough. I’m not going to lie, there are definitely going to be good days. The days when it seems like he’s interested, he opens up and tells you everything that you’ve been waiting to hear. Unfortunately, those days are short lived; before you know it he’s right back to ignoring you and you have no idea why.
7. You want to stop wasting your time.
This process of getting over someone is only going to work if you’re in it 100%. You have to want to get over him. You have to finally realize that you can’t keep wasting your time and your feelings on someone who doesn’t appreciate and reciprocate them. Your friends can tell you a million times that you need to stop going back to him and falling into old patterns, but until you realize it for yourself, it won’t work.