This is written in response to this article, of which you kinda need to read for the rest of this to make sense.
1. Call someone up to see “how they feel” about you when you really already kind of know and doing so is not to give you peace of mind as much as it is to facilitate another chance for them to give you the answer you want to hear.
2. Anything you’d find on a very typical bucket list because that means adventure to the rest of the world, like camping or skydiving, especially if you honestly don’t like the outdoors and thinking a bear is anywhere near your vicinity will make YOU pee yourself.
3. Treat yourself to your favorite restaurant dish and don’t worry about picking it apart and making a subpar version of it. It takes away from the magic of the experience.
4. Apply to jobs that you don’t want and that are so obviously out of your league re: how much experience/what education/what background they are looking for. It’s great to dream but we have to be realistic now and again. If you’re trying to get that big of a dream job, start where you can, with what you have, and work from there.
5. Tell a friend you have feelings for them when you know doing so will completely destroy the relationship, and you’d rather have them in your life at some capacity than not at all.
6. Doing anything regarding style, design or apartment decor that is anything less than what you enjoy and can afford. It’s in trying to be something we’re not that we get ourselves caught up in the most mess.
7. Go to a foreign country without knowing the language or anybody there. It’s an adrenaline rush, sure, but more than that, it’s a recipe for potentially dangerous situations but more likely just a lot of unnecessary frustration.
8. Make friends that are significantly older than you because it’s the “cool” “adult” thing to do or you want to mooch off the wisdom of the elderly.
9. Apologize when you don’t mean it (you can apologize that their feelings were hurt, but not for something you don’t feel bad about… especially in our everyday lives, when we have the tendency to over-apologize. It just sets up a subconscious understanding that we’re always in the wrong, and that we should always be sorry).
10. Do things you were never good at and had to growing up, like take dance classes or something. Look, if it’s not for you, don’t keep torturing yourself in front of groups of people.
11. Essentially, anything anybody tells you to do that doesn’t resonate with you. Nobody knows what’s best for you, and you can’t just live your life looking to others for everything you do. They can offer advice, and maybe that will help you, but at the end of the day, it should assist you, not be the basis of any of your decisions.