I Want You To Romance Me

Go on, I dare you. I can see you looking at me the way you are, just like that. What are you going to do with it then? Yes I’m challenging you; look at me standing here, I’m not budging, it’s your move. I’m an elven Liv Tyler steeling against a wraith—if you want me, you can come and claim me. I’m not even packing Hobbit over here, I’m just waiting casually for you to cross whatever obstacle you see in your path. See, I’m tired of touching your thigh just this way, or placing my hand over yours just so; I want you to romance me.

Now you know I’m not one for gender stereotypes, I’ve asked guys out in the past and I’ll do it again. I’ve paid for their drinks and their dinners and I don’t care. I’ve changed their light globes. I’ve been strong for them when they’ve been emotional. I don’t like it when people say women are so-and-so or men are so-and-so, but goddamn it I am tired of this realism. I don’t want to be politically correct any more, I just want you to romance me. I am empowered, educated, and aware, and now, just for a moment, I want to be the princess you think is worth slaying dragons over.

I want you, once you’re done awkwardly avoiding catching my eye, once you’re done pretending you don’t notice me, once you’re done with insecurely waiting for me to make the first move, to ask me out. I don’t want you to text me or email me. I want you to say it to my face. I want you say it in a moment that will catch me completely off guard, and I want you to stumble over your words and I want you to blush, and I want to do the exact same as I accept.

Or you could just skip all the formalities and just kiss me. When we’re laughing the way we do, you should just kiss me. It doesn’t need to be in the rain or with fireworks exploding in the background. It can be at the bar or in a crowded street or anywhere, I don’t care—just kiss me you fool. And let’s both be gleefully embarrassed afterwards and hold hands in silence for a moment while we both digest the euphoria of our first kiss.

I want you to not let anything stand in your way. I want you to come for me, to sweep me off my feet with a simple look. I want you to want me in this grand, clichéd way, but without doing any of those grand cliché things. We can just watch a movie and drink some wine, as long as you let me snuggle into your side while we do it. And then, because you listen to me when we’re talking and you’re getting to know me so well, I want you to let me have the last slice of pizza, or the last bite of cake (but I’ll insist that we share it anyway, because I’ll know you are romancing me).

You should be impulsive when you’re romancing me. You shouldn’t wait the requisite 3 days to call or text me, you should just do it when it hits you. When your desire for me, to see me, to smell me, to hear my voice is so compelling there’s nothing else for you to do. I want you to be constantly thinking about me, and to do innocuous little things that to me, are loaded with meaning because they reflect the ways in which you are learning me. I want you to be reckless and passionate and I want you to let me be reckless and passionate too. I want you to disengage your baggage for me, and I want you to romance me like you’ve never romanced before.

And when you’re romancing me, I want you to challenge me and argue with me about my opinions. I want you to romance me in this dangerous haphazard way which screams of imperfection—which makes everything all the more romantic, because it’s so wildly flawed, and present and LOUD. I want you to look at me like the most beautiful thing you’ve ever seen when I’m at my worst, and I want you to embrace all the sides of me as you get to know them, as part of some ineffable creature you can’t untangle. I want you to romance me because when you think about it, you really can’t see any other way. TC mark

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  • http://twitter.com/ingenuegle Egle Makaraite

    Your best. I’m in love.

  • http://twitter.com/alinatrifan Alina Trifan

    AWW! Now I’m sad.

  • Anonymous

    This article came at a perfect time for me.  Encapsulated all of my feelings.  Thank you.

    • Anonymous

      Just me, anonymous again, reporting back.  Today the person asked me out, to my face, stumbling over his words while blushing, and I did the same as I accepted.  Thanks, Kat George.

  • Sahar

    aaaaaaaah kat, everything you write is <3 

  • Guest

    YES.
    I hate that men have been so effectively emasculated, when all I want is for one to see me, know me, and think; briefly, instinctively, possessively…  “MINE”.

    I’m coming to terms with the impossibility of my desires in our current culture, but God damn, they remains.

    • http://www.facebook.com/gregpphoto Greg Petliski

      When we did that women bitched that we were being too possessive. Make up your idiotic minds please.

  • http://twitter.com/nuclearcabbage Nive

    Thank you, I really needed to read something so endearing to make my next move ….

  • http://www.facebook.com/natehermes Nate Hermes

    Well done.
     

  • Anonymous

    Kat George, you have me smitten. You have romanced the hell out of me <3

  • http://entropicalia.wordpress.com Alison

    As much as you/us/I might want this in theory: could you really handle the person offering it? In real life a lot of this behavior is much less romantic and a whole lot more frightening/demeaning/questionable. Hey, I’ll keep the fantasy, but speaking for myself alone, I don’t want to be romanced like an actress and treated like a princess. Given the opening lines, I doubt I’m alone here. But hell, if someone wants to prove me wrong I’m game.

    • http://twitter.com/Gibrann Gibránn Piña

      You are not alone. I get what you are saying. Isn’t that romatic??

      • http://entropicalia.wordpress.com Alison

        Romantic is my middle name. Wanna make out, talk about unicorns/philosophy and ignore each others texts? I obviously have game.

    • Matthewgoodband

      Idk my boyfriend does all of that and he’s not creepy or possessive about it at all. 

      • http://entropicalia.wordpress.com Alison

        Well then enjoy the shit out of it? Good thing you commented to say nothing.

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=508371039 Rayan Khayat

      Sadly, it seems like the most fulfilling love comes at a price. Does anyone have more to say about this? 

    • http://teresaelectro.blogspot.com/ teresaelectro

      But for argument’s sake, isn’t always nice when someone confesses they like you? Straight up, no warning, just letting you know and then kisses you?

      Now, flowers and writing poetry, movie style declarations of love, that could get tricky and awkward fast…

      • http://entropicalia.wordpress.com Alison

        Sure, if its something you want. But that scenario with someone you don’t want that confession from? No fun. So no. Not always.

      • http://www.facebook.com/sarah.n.knutson Sarah N. Knutson

        Yeah, this piece only works in a situation where two people are interested in each other. When the guy you seriously only want as a friend heads down this road, it’s just painful.

      • http://www.facebook.com/sarah.n.knutson Sarah N. Knutson

        Yeah, this piece only works in a situation where two people are interested in each other. When the guy you seriously only want as a friend heads down this road, it’s just painful.

  • Byron

    ok, but a hundred bucks says you’ll lose interest the moment I do.

  • Annwyn

    Sometimes all i want is to feel a man’s arms around me, just to feel that something is stronger than me for awhile.

  • etsuko

    “I am empowered, educated, and aware, and now, just for a moment, I want to be the princess you think is worth slaying dragons over.” – wonderful line.

  • Something or Other

    This. Is. My. Life.

  • http://summerslowrunner.wordpress.com/ Summer

    As someone who is also rather tired of always making the first move, always verbalizing the first emotions, I really enjoy this piece. Well done. 

  • Hannah

    You lost me at “I’m an elven Liv Tyler steeling against a wraith—if you want me, you can come and claim me.”

    Seriously, I saw The Return of the King five times in theaters. I love Lord of the Rings. But this is just… no. Don’t do that again, Kat.

  • http://twitter.com/melvinismad Melvin Alvarez

    Ryan O’Connel should read this so you can start hooking up and make great Thought Catalog babies.

    • Susu

      Ryan is gay. Love it though. 

      • http://www.facebook.com/gregpphoto Greg Petliski

        Is his sperm gay?

  • Ceqli

    Give me a reason to romance you, and I will. Are you worth the time and effort? If yes, then I will. If not, then go join the masses of lonely people to the left.

  • http://twitter.com/KevinMcCutcheon Kevin McCutcheon

    Yes ok i will 

  • Mashka

    ah yes but on the contrary we women always love a challenge. I’m barely interested in a guy who is actively pursuing me and always head over heels for a guy that is a bit more aloof

    • Susu Says

      you haven’t be ROMANCED 

  • Mashka

    ah yes but on the contrary we women always love a challenge. I’m barely interested in a guy who is actively pursuing me and always head over heels for a guy that is a bit more aloof

  • george

    ‘Bring your throbbing member’ – <3

  • http://www.facebook.com/iamahmad Ahmad Radheyyan

    Alright, let’s fucking do this. I’m coming over to sweep you off your feet, baby.

  • http://teresaelectro.blogspot.com/ teresaelectro

    Hit the nail on the head. Would it kill someone to act on impulse and call someone you just met when the mood strikes them? Cannot stand the 3 day rule, but adhere to most of the time.

    • http://www.facebook.com/gregpphoto Greg Petliski

      I’m learning that that is BS. They way to go about it? MORE than three days. A week. Sometimes more. Basically, just treat women with as little respect as possible (without going over the line of course) and they will be all over you.

  • Barnacle Jim

    Shit and piss on me. Demolish my hole

  • Barnacle Jim

    Shit and piss on me. Demolish my hole

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