9 Things You’ll Realize When You Date Your Ex Again


1. Pain changes people.

Accept the fact that pain changes people to make them stronger. You may have reconciled but let’s face it, it will never be the same again. That’s what pain does to people. That one person you’d take a bullet for tends to always be the one behind the gun. You were the last person to think that would hurt them. So what do you expect?

2. You are familiar with each other.

This is the best thing about dating someone you’ve known for quite a while. You can tell if they like it or they don’t. You know what pisses them off and what turns them on. You already see the difference between jokes and half meant jokes. You basically know how their mind works.

3. Your past adds fuel to the fire.

You can’t avoid this. If you have done something wrong, old shit comes back to life. Your previous mistakes add tension to the current situation. It can be a fallacy or the truth. You’ve done it before, you can do it again. Simple as that.

4. Not everyone could be a fan of your relationship.

Not everyone will support your relationship. It’s not because they don’t want you to be happy. It’s because they are concern about you. They can’t stand seeing you shed another tear because of the same person. They don’t want you to feel what you felt before. It could be your family or some of your friends. You can’t blame them. They laid their trust to this person but look what happened. They were all wrong and admit it, you felt the same as well. He/she broke your heart. He/she was the reason behind those sleepless nights, indirect posts, and anxiety attacks and now you’re back together? That’s just total bullshit.

5. You’re always undercover.

This is quite normal for all relationships but you are more suspicious this time. It’s not that you don’t trust them but you’ve learned a lot based on experience. This can be a test or because there is something suspicious. You just don’t want to experience the same scenario as before.

6. They don’t simply trust everyone who’s on the opposite side.

He/she doesn’t trust everyone who’s on your side and admit it; you’re doing the same thing as well. There are always one or two persons that you just don’t trust. It’s instinct. It may be true or false. They might be the source of pointless drama, jealousy and doubts that happened before.

7. New adventure. Do things that you have never done before.

Surprise them! Don’t be afraid to try out new things. Go places that you’ve never been in the past. It’s different this time. I understand that some places are sentimental but there’s nothing wrong trying out something new. It might be your next new favorite thing to do or to go to.

8. Hear something straight from the horse’s mouth.

Finally, Victoria’s secret comes out of the closet! You’ll hear it directly from them. Those lingering questions that you are dying to know the answer before can now be answered without hesitation.

9. They had finally realized your worth.

Lastly, they realized your worth. Oh god, finally! They realized in your absence that it’s you that they want to be with. They regret the things that they didn’t do when they had the chance. They realized that they should’ve tried harder, gave you more attention than any other person, loved you more, appreciated every little thing you gave an effort, and many other things. They blew their chances before. Now, it’s different, no more blurred lines, no more mind games and no more naive feelings. This goes for you as well. If you want something, go get it. You’ll never know, this might be your last shot. Don’t waste it again.

It’s 50/50. It’s a gamble. It’s crazy. That’s what love is. So if it didn’t work out before, lay down your cards on the table because here’s your chance to make it alright. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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