We All Have That Friend Who’ll Always Put Us Down, But Here’s Why You Don’t Have To Listen


Admit it, we all have that one friend that will always put us down.

No matter how much you deny it, you had that one friend in your life that always wants to put you down. They want to make themselves feel so good inside all the while putting our self-esteem down in the mud. They always want to be one step higher, one compliment more, one point more than you do. For a long time, it felt okay, knowing that they were just like that, and there’s nothing you can do about it. But deep inside, you know how much it hurts. You know how it felt wanting to be at the top, but having to give way because they deserve to be there. You know what it’s like to want to buy that new dress you want, but you can’t because they have to look better than you do.

But let me tell you one thing.

They’re just insecure.

They’re insecure because you seem to always get the favor. They’re insecure because they know you can get what you want when you want it. They’re insecure because they feel like you have something they can’t have – that intangible something that just cannot be bought no matter how much money they have.

They want that something. They want those friends who won’t let you down, even if you do let them down sometimes. They want that significant other to come home to, whether you looked perfect with your on-fleek makeup and trendy clothes or if you looked so simple with a clean face and jeans. They want that kind of love you have with your family, the one they can never have because they keep trading holidays with overtime, trying to earn so much more of the money to buy things they don’t really need.

What they want is your life. They want that honest simplicity of things; the pure, uncomplicated simple life of a person who has a decent job, a home to go to after each tiring day, and the love of the people that person cares for the most. That’s what they want. And they think they can’t get it so they push you down. Every. Single. Time. Because you can’t replace that love and that warmth with something as superficial as a shopping spree.

So if you keep getting pushed down, keep your head up.

Keep your head up because you have it all – more than all the riches money can buy. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

Writer. Programmer. Dreamer.

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