To The Person I Spent The Night With

Thank you for giving me the hours that I never knew I needed. I spilled the night with someone whom I know I will eventually bump into the street and not recognize. Someone who didn’t have that impact like everyone else- but it’s okay. It made me realize that we don’t have to be exceptional and remarkable all the time. You can just be like a butterfly that visits a room- leaving everyone in awe for a second and then everyone will eventually forget.

Thank you for the moments we shared, the stories that we knew about each other and the smiles and stares that we enabled each other to experience. It may be mundane and boring at times but those few hours ended and made us both feel great and alive.

Thank you for giving me the chance to realize that not all people are meant to leave a mark in your being. Sometimes, they are just there to make us uncover what we momentarily needed- someone to lend an ear to about our pressing issues, give us catharsis, or maybe some human warmth.

Coming from a generation wherein we long for intimacy and connection, we almost always want that next person we meet to fit the profile. We are all secretly hoping that this person is the elusive ‘one.’ Even if we deny it and take it to our death, the hope is still hidden somewhere inside.

And for the people that we met that did not fit the footing, we almost always forget to be thankful for them. We forget to thank them for helping us take the risk of dating and opening up to someone. We forget to thank them for giving us the chance to realize what it feels like to bare your soul to someone even in such infinitesimal moment. We forget the importance of having someone other than your usual circle of people to meet and widen our horizon to. We forget to thank them for the time that they spent with us even if in hindsight, we thought it was just a waste.

In this era, we tend to be too self centered and egoistic about the number of people that we date. It feels like a competition, really. But who are we competing with in the end? If you garnered a greater number compared to your peer, does that mean that you are more advance?
People are so disposable these days that we throw them like tissue after we did number 2. We tend to forget that they are human (you know, with feelings and all) who are maybe looking for the same thing like we do.

Maybe they are looking for that spark and magic too. Maybe you had it that moment- however small the fire it ignited inside. Maybe you didn’t. Either way, it’s okay.

I know that what I am looking for is still out there, and I know that it is the same for you as well. So to the person I spent the night with, Thank you- whatever your name is. Thought Catalog Logo Mark


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