Find Things That Make You Happy, Not People

I know that it’s much easier said than done. When it comes down to it, people are not supposed to be alone. We cling to one another and pair off for so many reasons. It’s just that sometimes, those reasons aren’t right.

We spend all day, every day, interacting, talking and laughing and sharing with whoever. Sometimes it’s a five minute conversation, sometimes it feels like we could and should hold onto one person forever.

But here’s the thing: people are not always going to stay. And sometimes, we have to be more understanding of that. There is something to be said about learning to be alone.

But what’s even more important is learning to find happiness and contentment without someone standing there, holding your hand.

I don’t mean that we shouldn’t go out and find good people. But pay attention to the way that you feel when you hear your favorite song. When the sun is shining. When you’re alone and enjoying the way that the world passing through you.

Those little moments of clarity and joy matter more than anyone thinks.

It’s not always about finding that one person to fill the void, to make everything seem worthwhile.

We all have to be our own missing pieces after a while. And the more than we embrace that, the better off we’ll be when we do meet the right person. When the timing lines up, when you’re finally with who you were meant for, you’ll know it’s real.

I guess what I’m really trying to say is that there is no shame in learning yourself. And sure, it’s much simpler to let someone stand in, to not have to go through the hard, impossible things alone.

But there is also courage and strength in knowing who you are without explaining it to someone. And understanding your own heart only makes it that much better when you give yourself to someone.

It’s okay to feel a little off sometimes, but don’t use bodies and names and faces to make yourself feel together. That comes from inside you.

Sure, it takes a little time. Most of us are still figuring it out.

But in the end, the journey is the best part. So embrace the little things that make you happy and make you who you are, because when you do that, anything and everything is possible. TC mark

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