Dear Struggling 20-Something: You Are Not Alone

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Dear Struggling 20-Something:

At 21, the year before I graduated college, I had several mini meltdowns.

And by “mini”, I mean total freak outs.

I would constantly think: WHAT AM I GOING TO DO WITH MY LIFE?!

I think the pressure of college and career came to a violent clash and I began inviting comparison into my heart without intending to.

The pressure to grow up was looming in the horizon and I didn’t know how to handle that reality. Let’s be real, I still don’t know how to handle that reality. Can’t I just be Wendy from Peter Pan?

Anyway, I remember gushing my doubts and fears on a long car ride with my mama. I told her my dread of joining the rat race in corporate America, my uncertainty of what my dreams even were, and the itch in my heart that I couldn’t identify. I felt dreamless. Purposeless. One in a hundred million.

So if that’s you, welcome to the club. But I think perhaps those feelings result from the lack of control our hearts somehow know about. Through all of our efforts to prepare, plan, schedule and control, it seems as though we’re constantly in the a backwards race of tricking our heart into thinking we’ve got control.

Nobody has it all figured out. So don’t be fooled.

But I also remember telling mama-girl that I wanted to do SOMETHING creative, purposeful, and impactful. Sounded like a long shot. And most days, it still does. “Something” is still defining itself.

But I’m learning that’s okay if you’ve got a little fire in your spirit, if you learn to smile through the failures, and trust God’s hand on the process.

Like I said, most days I still don’t know what this is supposed to look like. My senior-in-college-working-at-a-banking-internship-self would never have let me do what I am now. But God would. And I had to start letting Him in on my life through something as simple as conversation. Isn’t that funny? There’s no secret formula to reconnecting with God. It’s the same as reconnecting with an old friend. Say hi, tell him about your life, and pay attention to His voice heard through your experiences, His people, and His Word.

So although none of us have anything all that figured out, I have two things to say:

1. We have to be okay with taking risks when it doesn’t make sense.

Leap, jump, fall, scrape your knees. The more you do, the more you’ll realize a little bump or scratch here and there isn’t too bad compared to being trapped inside a head full of worries we literally cannot do anything about.

2. We also have to be okay with change. Big, hard, uncomfortable change.

Because when we do, the canvas of our life will be splashed full of more color and excitement than had we done what the world expected us to.

So, just do you.

Do what the good Lord etches on your heart – day by day. And you’re only going to find out what that is by talking to Him and letting Him talk to you through His people and His Word.

Because when you start talking to God and letting Him in on your plans, you’ll see the beauty of a process unfolding, instead of trying to teleport in a hyper-controlled fashion to a single point on a map. You’ve already arrived because you’re a daughter of God. So enjoy the journey – He’s got it all mapped out. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

Jordan Lee is the creative voice behind the blog, The SoulScripts.

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