Don’t Let Your Pain Go To Waste

Linda Xu
Linda Xu

If you’re finding yourself in a place very different from where you pictured yourself being, I need you to know that it will be okay. That you are not alone. That you will come out of this stronger and better than EVER before.

I need you to see this time as an opportunity. I know.. An opportunity? These tears? This heart break? This ache in my bones?

Yes sweet friend, those wounds are your opportunity. They are a blessing in disguise. If you’ll let them, they will become the strongest parts of you. Your greatest victories. Leading you to your BEST self.

Life is filled with ups and downs, and while I know this is your biggest down yet, I also need you to realize that there are more down the road. Granted, they will be different “downs” and of different magnitudes, but nevertheless there WILL be downs. It’s simply that thing we call life (and fortunately, life = ups + downs!).

But it is how you handle the downs, that will define who you are. You can be a victim, or you can choose to be a survivor. You can give up, or you can give it your all. You can be defeated, or you can RISE.

You are so much more than this circumstance you’re in. And honestly, you are MORE of yourself in this hard time than ever before.

You’re at a crossroads, at a transition, “lost”.. But it is in these difficult moments – these heart-wrenching can’t-get-out-of-bed-in-the-morning moments – that you are the most vulnerable and true version of yourself.

And guess what?? You. Are. Beautiful.

You are here. You exist. And above all, you MATTER. “The universe gave up celestial pieces of itself to sculpt you.”

Now, you can choose to ignore that and hide in the dark OR you can choose to embrace this time (and the entire bag of emotions that comes with it) and realize that “your wound is the place where the LIGHT will enter you.”

Don’t let this pain go to waste. Be reflective, do your “inner work,” appreciate the little things, grieve, grow, learn, be, and above all – LOVE yourself.

Know your worth and know that you don’t have to be defined by the things that happened to you. Instead, let your RESPONSE define you.

Take a deep breath in. Accept where you are. And breathe out. (And then get that bad ass determined look upon your face that says “I WILL CONQUER THIS BITCH!”).

Realize that you are exactly where you are meant to be. Realize that there is a bigger picture. And although you can’t see it now, know that it is absolutely STUNNING. That sunshine follows rain. And that only through this pain, will you know what pure happiness is.

Trust that with all your heart, hold on to that, and focus on letting this experience shape you into the best version of you that you can be.

All you have left is the present and the future because the “powerful play will go on and on.”

So tell me, what will your verse be? Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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